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Happy Valentine’s Day!

If you have a romantic relationship, I pray blessings over your bond that it may blossom in joy and vitality.

If you don’t have a romantic relationship, I pray blessings over the loving relationship with yourself. It’s impossible to have a healthy relationship without this.

Here’s my Valentine’s wish for you.

I know life is not always easy. You have plenty of growing pains and challenges.

I bless you with the ability to feel how special you are, whether you are in a relationship or not. May you feel connected to your spiritual heart. I bless you with the ability to see your relationships from the highest perspective. May you feel so filled by God’s love that it’s easy to let go and forgive. May the boulders be removed from your path. May all your wounds be healed.

Remember when you were a child?

There are 35.6 million children in prekindergarten through 8th grade in the United States. Many of them will be giving Valentines to their families, classmates and teachers today. That is a wonderful tradition, don’t you think?

Take a moment and send a Valentine to your friends and family, just like you did in grade school. Tell them how much you appreciate them. Their hearts will open and so will yours.

You could write a simple message of appreciation like this:
• I love the way your eyes sparkle when you laugh.
• When you giggle like a teenager, it tickles my funny bone.
• You are such a good listener. I feel known and loved by you.
• You’re one of my best cheerleaders. Thanks for encouraging me to shoot for the stars.
• You open my eyes in gentle ways to help me see my blind spots.
• You always want the best for people. You help me stretch when I feel tempted to settle for less.
• You are a dedicated provider. Thank you for helping take care of our material needs.

Reach out to single people. They may feel lonely.

Guess how many singles there are in the U.S.?

In the last U.S. census (2016), of all the citizens who were age 18 years and older:
• 110.6 million people were unmarried.
• This group comprised 45.2 percent of all U.S. residents. 53.2% were women. 46.8% were men.
• 63.5% had never been married. Another 23.1 percent were divorced and 13.4 percent were widowed.

Think of one more person who needs your love and compassion today. Write to them.

Help the light shine even more brightly on this Valentine’s Day.

Love and blessings to you,
Benita A. Esposito

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Credentials for Benita A Esposito, MA, LPC

Podcast 5 Tips for Healthy Relationships

Do you have a relationship that you would like to improve? Most of us do.

How’s the quality of your romance? The relationship with your parents? Your children? Your co-workers? Your friends?

Research reveals that the quality of our loving relationships is the single biggest predictor of our happiness, physical health and emotional well-being.

If you’re in a dysfunctional relationship, you’re more likely to develop a serious disease within four years. Also, you are likely to die four years earlier.

Emotional anguish and stress affect our bodies.

Listen to this podcast, “5 Tips for Healthy Relationships.”
NOTE: Do not download the podcast. It is a giant wav file and will take up tons of data on your computer or device.

My dear friend, Dr. Cindy Libert, interviewed me for the podcast. She is a holistic integrative medicine physician in Asheville, NC. The podcast is 23 minutes long.

Dr. John Gottman’s research found that our romantic relationships have a 93% probability of ending if we use five specific behaviors.

Ninety-nine percent of the couples who walk into my office use these five hurtful behaviors.

I’ll explain what NOT to do so you don’t unknowingly damage your relationships.

The good news is that we can change our destructive habits once we become aware of them.

Can damaged relationships be repaired?

The good news is, “yes.” Even when there’s been an affair, 73% of marriages become healthy with Gottman Couple Therapy.

If you are a highly sensitive person like I am, it’s even more important to learn this information. Why? Because unresolved conflicts hurt us even more.

If you aren’t a highly sensitive person, no worries. You will benefit from this podcast too.

Listen to the podcast, and please share it with your friends and family.

Remember, this information can be applied to any kind of relationship. If every person used these skills, we all would be much happier. That’s what I want for you.

Are you serious about getting help for your relationship?

Join us for the Valentine’s Couples Retreat.
Look for the Early Bird discount.

Click here to view the Events Calendar for updates.

Venue: Young Harris, Georgia, USA.
Overlooking the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains and Lake Chatuge.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito, MA, LPC, Certified Gottman Leader

Contact me for a complimentary 10-minute phone interview to see if we are a good fit for this retreat or for private counseling sessions in-person, video-conference or phone.

Highly Sensitive Person Retreat

Two days: April 27-28, 2019. North Georgia Mountains, USA

Early Birds: Save $35 when you register by March 27.

  • Have you ever been told you are too sensitive?
  • Do you become overwhelmed by conflict and aggressive people?
  • Do you feel distressed when you have too much to do in too little time?
  • Do noisy crowds and social chit chat at networking events bother you?
You may be a highly sensitive person. Take the quiz.
This retreat is a safe place for Highly Sensitive People to do deep emotional healing and excavate their Authentic Self. All Highly Sensitive People are welcome in this retreat … if you are an introvert, extrovert, or an ambivert.
Join us!
I’ll help you understand the highly sensitive person trait so you can increase your self-worth and confidence. I’ll help you enjoy more fulfilling relationships and create your career so it is an expression of your soul.
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Do you want to know more before applying for this retreat?
You may read my personal stories, trials and triumphs around being a Highly Sensitive Person in my book: The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert.  Click here to Buy it on Amazon.

The Research

A new personality type emerged from Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking psychological research: the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). I particularly love counseling and coaching highly sensitive people because I am one.

Only 20% of the population is highly sensitive. That means 80% of the population is wired differently than we are. No wonder we feel misunderstood.

Photo by Benita A Esposito

Click here to read my personal story about being a Highly Sensitive Person.

Gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person
Conscientious and responsible, we are deeply moved by the beauty of Nature and the arts. We are touched by the feelings of those around us. We’re troubled by conflict, and we want to decrease the violence in a world. Our intuition tells us what needs to be done to help people feel comfortable, and we truly want what is best for everyone. Sometimes we can predict the future. We easily seeing outcomes that others can’t see. We love deeply and passionately. When emotional intimacy is combined with sexual intimacy in a loving healthy committed relationship, there’s nothing better. We are happy and our creative juices are set free. A world filled with harmony, mutual respect and creativity sounds just right to us.

Happy mature woman outdoors in the parkChallenges of the Highly Sensitive Person
It’s easy to feel what other people feel, and we can understand people at depth. But, we may feel like we are losing ourselves in a relationship, especially if people don’t nurture us in return. Some of us highly sensitive people actually take on the pain of others, which helps them heal, but leaves us exhausted. If you have this type of sensitivity, you are an “empath” like I am. Before we understand this about ourselves, we may not know that we are taking on emotions that belong to others.

Because we are so sensitive, we need to have daily relaxation just to stay centered. We need to meditate to restore our inner peace and regain energy. In a world that values high productivity and undervalues naps, HSPs can get burned out if we don’t take a stand for good self-care. That includes healthy food and exercise.

Some of us have trouble standing up for ourselves because we are so empathetic to the discomfort of others. We want to please others to keep the peace. Or, ironically, we can get harsh and aggressive if we have not yet mastered the art of setting boundaries in a tactful way. We can feel like a ball tossed around on turbulent ocean waves, unable to find a stable base inside ourselves. We might try to get family members to change so we can feel calm inside. But it rarely works, even though we may use that approach for years before we become exhausted. We need to commit to cultivating inner peace no matter what is happening on the outside.

Too much stimulation from the environment stresses us. We’re like cats whose sensitive whiskers and ears that sense tiny movements all around us. We tend to be light sleepers and insomnia is common especially when traveling and sleeping in strange environments.

Anxiety and depression are familiar especially if our loving relationships are not nurturing for us, or if we grew up in a dysfunctional family.

Highly Sensitive People don’t like:

  • People yelling at us
  • Conflicts that aren’t resolved
  • Bosses making too many demands
  • Loud noises, crowds and violent movies
  • Rush hour at high speeds, bumper to bumper traffic
  • Temperatures that are too cold or too hot
  • Odors and chemicals that don’t bother 80% of the population.

Needs of the Highly Sensitive Person

Highly sensitive people need authentic, genuine emotional connections more than most people. We feel empty inside when we don’t get it. There’s a deep ache. We need quiet time to go inside. Our spirituality is important to us. We need to learn how to regulate our emotions when we’re stressed. We need beauty. We need to meditate. We need to slow down. We need to be creative. We need help to learn how to manage our highly sensitive qualities.

We have incredible gifts to help people and to make the world a better place. We are counselors, healers, artists, writers, philosophers, teachers and pastors. We facilitate healing for people, and we understand people at depth. We’re intuitive and spiritual. We must take good care of ourselves, or we have a high price to pay, higher than most. When not balanced, we get irritable, sick, exhausted, anxious, depressed or feel physical pain. Like Goldie Locks in the story of the three bears, we like our porridge not too hot, not too cold, but just right.

Breathwork is one of the primary transformational healing process used in this retreat.  It’s intense and deep so you’re likely to experience impressive results. We work directly with the body to access emotional memory, sometimes as far back as in-utero and infancy. We want to heal the very beginning of life-long patterns so you can be free.

Please read all these articles before applying for this retreat.

  1. Breathwork Description
  2. Breathwork Client Anecdotes
  3. Breathwork Q&A
  4. Breathwork Testimonials

Prerequisites for the Retreat

  1. Attend a minimum of three private sessions. There is an additional fee for these sessions. We can meet at my Atlanta or Blairsville, Georgia office. Or meet via phone or videoconference.
  2. Read all the Breathwork articles above.

Photo credit: Benita A. Esposito. Hiawassee, GA

Location: Young Harris, Georgia. Overlooking Lake Chatuge and the Blue Ridge Mountains.

Two hours from Atlanta, Chattanooga and Asheville.

Schedule

Saturday and Sunday
Arrive at 9:00-9:15am
Group 9:30am – 12:30pm
Break  12:30 – 2:30pm
Group  2:30 – 5:30pm
Saturday evening: group dinner

Please be flexible on the ending time to accommodate the needs of the group. We will take one long break during the afternoon to walk at the lake, meditate, nap or deepen friendships. It’s your choice.

Retreat Tuition for two full days: $595.00

Early Bird Tuition: Save $35. Tuition is $560 when your register before March 27.

Register Early: This is a small group so you will get plenty of personal attention. Space allows for 6 people.

Pre-requisite: Minimum of 3 private sessions.

Click here for a list of Lodging and Restaurants.

Contact me, Benita A. Esposito, MA,  Licensed Professional Counselor, for a complimentary 10-minute phone interview.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito Credentials. Masters degree in Clinical Psychology and four decades experience.

Read more about the challenges and gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person in these books:

  1. The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert by Benita A Esposito
  2. The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
  3. The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine Aron
  4. The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron

P.S. If you’re interested in receiving individual counseling or life coaching … in-person, on the phone, or via videoconference … you can start by contacting me for a complimentary 10-minute interview. I’m happy to help!

Refund Policy

All refund requests must be made via email. Complete the contact form.

• 30 or more days before the retreat, there will be a full refund minus a $50 processing fee.

• No refunds 0 – 29 days before the retreat, but you may apply your fee to private sessions or another retreat within 1 year, minus a $50 fee.

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Bestseller Banner awarded to Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert

Drum roll, please!

I’m excited to announce the debut of the paperback version of The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self.

It is my memoir and teaching stories to guide highly sensitive introverts on the journey to the Authentic Self.

The eBook version launched 10/16/2018. Amazon awarded it the Bestseller banner in 9 categories during the first week.

Amazon began posting the #1 New Release banner for the paperback version in 8 categories on 12/3/2018.

If you ever wanted to achieve a cherished goal, but you doubted you could do it, you’ll be inspired by my story.

Most of the time my book sells more copies than When Bad Things Happen to Good People, The Dalai Lama’s Book of Wisdom, and the Whole-Brain Child which was written by one of my teachers.

I thought that if my book received the Bestseller banner, tons of other books must, too. But that’s not the case. Brian Berni, who manages my Amazon ads, explained that it’s rare for a book to become a bestseller.

There are 4 million eBooks on Amazon.

My eBook ranked #3,305 during the first week.

That means that only 3,304 books sold more copies.

Brian says that he’s happy if a new book ranks 20,000. It’s excellent if a book ranks 6,000.

But it’s absolutely amazing for a book to rank 3,000-4,000. Especially for a first-time author who doesn’t use much social media or have a big platform.

How did this success happen?

For years I had hoped that I could write a bestseller, but it seemed like a pipe dream.

It took me two years to write this book. I didn’t feel confident while writing and publishing my book. I changed the title a thousand times. I fretted over learning the technology required to publish and advertise a book on Amazon. There were hundreds of things to study and memorize. But week after week I learned.

I didn’t study writing in school. I’m not an English major. I enrolled in an adult education course on writing once, but I quit the first time the teacher criticized my work. Highly Sensitive Introverts feel stung by criticism. I have dyslexia so I read slowly and I don’t like to read much. Most writers are readers. Not me.

I consulted the guidance of the Holy Spirit every step of the way:

• what topics to include in this book and which to save for another book
• what writing style to use, and how to edit it.
• which self-publishing school to choose. I found several schools that cost $20,000. I refused to spend that kind of money.
• which sub-contractors to hire for editing, proofreading, cover design, formatting, copywriting the book description and ad management.
• I asked for prayer support. One of the women on the prayer team at my church crocheted a white loose-weave scarf with a tiny cross embedded in it. That scarf hung around my neck 24 hours each weekend while I wrote for 20 months.
• The Holy Spirit sent angels who lifted me up. I acknowledge them all in my book.

I did my best to follow instructions from the Self-Publishing School (SPS) founded by Chandler Bolt. He and his staff have the highest integrity. My book coach, Marcy Pusey, was perfect for me because she is a highly sensitive person, too. She deeply understood me and she was so warm-hearted that I was moved to tears. I had tons of questions and I didn’t hesitate to ask every one of them. The SPS online community is warm and friendly. They provided the support that I needed to keep putting one foot in front of the other, especially when I felt discouraged.

*** If you would like to join the Self-Publishing School so you can learn how to write and publish your book, shoot me an email. I’ll arrange for you to receive a sizable discount.

I knew I could write my book. But, I also knew that if I didn’t learn how to market it well, few people would find it. My goal was to reach masses of people to help improve the quality of life on the planet.

The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert eBook sold 849 copies in the first month. Some books don’t sell that much in their lifetime. I hope that the release of the paperback will catapult sales.

I had no idea that my book would become a bestseller. None.

But now, my confidence is growing. I can look back and understand what I did to create a bestseller even though I was a first-time author, a babe in the woods.

I hope you feel encouraged by my story. If I did it, you can do it. My book coach told me that 80% of people want to write a book, but only 2% actually do.

Always remember this:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.” ―Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Here’s to your success in achieving your most cherished dreams.

Hop on over to Amazon, and buy your copy of The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert.  Buy a copy for your sensitive friends and for the family members that you want to understand you.

I’d appreciate it if you would write an Amazon review because great reviews boost the rank of the book. Then more sensitive introverts will find the help they need.

Please share this notice on your social media sites.

Author: Benita A. Esposito, MA, is a licensed professional counselor, life coach and spiritual counselor. Contact her for a complimentary 10-minute get-acquainted phone chat to schedule a coaching session to catapult your success as a sensitive introvert.

Visit www.SensitiveIntrovert.com and www.Flourishing-Lives.com.

Click here to visit the Book Page for The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert.

Highly Sensitive Introverts’ Strengths and Struggles

This is chapter 3 from the book by Benita A. Esposito, MA, LPC:

The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self Read more

Healing Grief: Breathwork Opens the Heart and Mends Relationships

This story was written by one of my clients.

I have worked with Benita Esposito for 10 months. I have done both personal counseling as well as incredible couples counseling with my husband. I’m so grateful that I accepted her invitation to attend a Deep Emotional Healing Retreat that included breathwork. I was apprehensive. It seemed a little unnerving to not have control over the outcome, or know what would come up during breathwork, but I enrolled anyway because I trusted Benita.

My background
I’ve had a life-long insecure attachment style that has impacted all my relationships, including my marriage of 17 years. One psychotherapist suggested that I do a year of CBT (cognitive behavioral talk therapy) and start on an anti-depressant. I knew deep in my soul that what I needed was healing on an emotional level.

My birth mother died when I was barely two years old and my father remarried four and a half months later. I had been the third of four in my family, and then overnight I had three older stepsiblings, so I became number six of seven. My birth mother was very sick during my first two years of life, and she also had another young baby. So you can imagine that getting individual loving attention from her might have been challenging. I was often cared for by aunts and grandparents before my birth mother passed away.

My stepmother was not a nurturing woman. In fact, she was either mildly or extremely abusive during my childhood. The abuse included verbal, emotional and physical aggression. The verbal abuse lasted until I was 40 when I finally began to stand up for myself. Needless to say, I was not “attuned” with my stepmother when I was growing up. I still call her weekly and do my best to care for her. I do this out of love for my deceased father and my commitment to being a Disciple of Christ, not out of a great love for my stepmother. I have grieved for years about not having a deep mother-daughter relationship.

From the beginning of my 17-year marriage, I tried to develop a healthy loving bond with my three stepchildren. They rejected me from the very beginning. Even though we had lots of counseling with other therapists, I continued to feel very vulnerable and emotionally unsafe with my husband and his children. I’m sensitive to criticism, and triggered when I feel emotionally abandoned. My husband’s family has told me that I am touchy and defensive. The optimist in me kept thinking, “If I can’t have a loving attachment with my stepmother, maybe I can have one with my stepdaughters.” Fortunately, God does compensate, and I have a daughter-in-law that I’m very close to, as well as other young women that are open to the love I have to share.

During the Breathwork

My overall goals for the retreat were to develop a deeper relationship with all my stepdaughters, to heal my feelings of abandonment, and to finally earn a feeling of secure attachment.

My focus during our first session of breathwork on Saturday was to (1) heal the grief of my mother’s death, (2) heal the hurt of the childhood neglect and abuse, and (3) heal the grief of my father’s sudden passing when I was 35 years old.

I was surprised at how quickly I began to cry, but this was no ordinary cry. The crying turned into vigorous sobbing that was loud at times. I am still amazed at how much grief came out of my body. I cried for almost an hour! At one point, I was grieving the absence of my mother’s loving embrace. I could not remember ever having a loving embrace. Oh how I wanted to feel that! The intensity of the ache was more than I can describe.

Just then, Benita knelt next to me, and reached down and hugged me, heart to heart. I sobbed and sobbed in her loving embrace. I think she must have held me for ten minutes. She hugged me until I could finally take a deep breath. Then she released her embrace, as I did.

When we finished our breathwork session, I was filled with extraordinary love and peace. I was overwhelmingly grateful! I felt so known and loved by my Heavenly Father. I felt so known and loved by my Savior. I felt so known and loved by the Holy Spirit that He directed Benita to embrace me exactly when I needed it. This was a life-changing embrace!!! I am forever changed!!!

My heart had been occupied by grief, but now it was open, ready to enjoy deeper loving relationships with those around me.
On Sunday, round two of breathwork started. I quickly found that there was nothing to clear. It was all gone! The image of a fire truck came to my mind. I know that may seem weird, but it was as if it required a huge fire hose (not a small garden hose, or even a pressure washer) to aggressively wash away all the grief on a deep cellular level. I knew that my healing was complete. In fact, the message I got was that I was now “whole and complete”.

After the Retreat
A few days after the retreat, I had a phone call with one of my stepdaughters to clear up some things that had happened months before. I’m so grateful that I could start the conversation by sharing with her that I had completed my grieving, and that I now had a greater capacity to love her. During the conversation, I allowed her to share anything that was upsetting her so I could apologize. The best part was that I did not get emotionally activated at all! I could see her points, and commit to creating a deeper partnership with her. In the past, I did not have the capacity to do that because there was way too much hurt inside of me.

How grateful I am for Benita’s exquisite expertise and her powerful intuition and caring Christian heart that facilitated such profound healing. In addition to Benita, I found the other participants to be loving and wonderful as well. It was a powerful, safe, beautiful environment to have such a healing experience.

Forever Grateful and Forever Healed.
LH, Atlanta, GA

 

CONTACT INFO FOR BENITA A. ESPOSITO

If you would like to schedule a complimentary 10-minute get-acquainted call to see if Life Coaching and Spiritual Counseling with Benita A. Esposito are a good fit for you, please complete the Contact Form. You should receive an email within 48 hours.

How I Discovered I Am an Intuitive Empath

This is chapter 5 in my book, The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self.

Search for my ebook and paperback book on Amazon and click the “Look Inside” button to read the first several pages of the book. You can buy it on Amazon.

“The trademark of an empath is feeling and absorbing other people’s emotions and/or physical symptoms because of their high sensitivities. These people filter the world through their intuition. Empaths are big-hearted people and try to relieve the pain of others … suddenly they’re the one feeling drained or upset when they felt fine before.” ~ Dr. Judith Orloff is a New York Times bestselling author and a member of the UCLA psychiatric clinical faculty. Read more

Mindfulness. How to Feel Whole in the Midst of Chaos

Personal and Spiritual Mastery

Many of us feel upset with the increase of violence on our planet. If you are a  highly sensitive person, you may feel the chaos energetically, even though you’re hundreds of miles away from a war, or a mass shooting or a natural disaster. If you have experienced abuse or trauma, or if you are empathic, your body may feel agitated, setting off a whole string of emotions that you don’t understand. That’s typical for a highly sensitive person, that is, until you develop a mindfulness practice to experience personal and spiritual mastery.

What can we do in the midst of chaos? We can’t always stop the violence around us. But instead of feeling helpless, we can do something. We can stop the wars inside ourselves and return to the experience of wholeness every day. Some spiritual leaders say that it takes only 10% of the whole population to shift the consciousness on the planet. When we develop the ability to stay more centered, we affect the world because we are part of the world, like one facet of the diamond is part of the whole diamond. Many of us have spent years doing inner healing. All the work we have done with our families and friends cannot be in vain. It counts, even if we cannot see the immediate impact of our efforts. We can contribute to the wisdom on this planet.

Right now you may be experiencing a resurgence of old issues and old wounds that you thought you had healed. This does not mean that you are backsliding. It means that you have the opportunity to upgrade your mastery level so you can more closely align with your Authentic Self as a highly sensitive person. Wherever the distortions still remain, they are being exposed. When you experience a conflict, ask to be shown the highest level of wisdom. Then summon the courage to act congruently with your insights.

Make a study of the wise use of power. The abuse of power results in violence. There’s a direct relationship between unresolved grief and the abuse of power. When we lose something important to us (including our sense of power or worthiness), or when we lose someone precious to us, vulnerable emotions arise. If we don’t know how to be with our vulnerable emotions, we blame or attack others. Or we shut down in depression, or we get stoic and can’t connect with our loved ones. Or we harm ourselves. Or we use our favorite addiction. But when we use emotional mastery skills, we can stay present with our own vulnerability while being grounded in our body. We connect with our Authentic Self and the Holy Spirit. We still have a sense of wholeness while we experience the loss. We’re able to make decisions based on the wise use of power.

Personal and spiritual mastery look like this: We are willing to sit with our grief and take responsibility for our disappointment, helplessness or loss. We own it. We observe ourselves non-judgmentally and say, “This is my grief. This is my sorrow. This is my loss.” We are willing to feel it and stop abandoning ourselves. We stop blaming others. We breathe and feel. This practice is called mindfulness.

When we choose personal and spiritual mastery, it’s like playing a violin. Our instrument needs tuning every time we play. We don’t tune it once and it stays tuned. We practice our scales even though we’ve been playing for years because it helps us stay proficient. We play music that brings us joy, but we also select new pieces that challenge us because we enjoy upgrading our skills. We love the experience of making the violin sing even sweeter. When all the orchestra members increase their skills, the music sparkles.

Conclusion

I encourage you to refine your skills every day so you can play the beautiful music your Authentic Self longs to sing. You are a vital part of the whole symphony. You count. Turn towards your true source of all love, wisdom and power. Schedule daily mindfulness practices so you increase your personal and spiritual mastery.

Reflections. Now It’s Your Turn.

  1. Who or what sets off “wars” in your life?
  2. Choose one struggle to focus on to upgrade your personal and spiritual mastery skills.
  3. Ask your Authentic Self and God to counsel you. Write what you hear, word for word.
  4. Develop daily practices to self-soothe and increase self-awareness so you can feel peace in the middle of the storm. Examples: Meditate. Breathe deeply. Journal. Yoga. Exercise. Eat healthy food. Talk with a friend. Attend counseling sessions. Pray. Paint. Play. Spend time in nature. Get 8 hours of sleep.
  5. What action do you choose to take? When? How often? Schedule it on your calendar so you keep the commitment to yourself. You’ll feel so much better when you develop mindfulness practices so you can feel peace in the middle of the storm.

A Resource for You

I created the guided meditation CD “A Journey into Wholeness” to help people stay grounded, manage difficult emotions, and access spiritual guidance. If you would like to hear a sample and purchase a copy, click here. This is one of many tools I have to share with you.

Contact Information

Contact the author Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor if you would like help to develop your personal and spiritual mastery via individual or couples counseling or intensive retreats. Offices in Atlanta and Blairsville, Georgia. Spiritual counseling is available worldwide via videoconference.

Websites

www.SensitiveIntrovert.com

www.Flourishing-Lives.com

Copyright 2017. All rights reserved. The Esposito Institute, Inc.

 

Breathwork: My Personal Story

Are you tired of limiting patterns sabotaging your life? Would your life be significantly better if you did not have to deal with emotional wounds that pop up at the most unexpected times?

If you keep doing the same old thing, you will keep creating the same results. You cannot solve a problem from the level of the problem. If you are ready to do something significantly different to achieve your fondest dreams, read on.

Breathwork is the most powerful tools I have ever used to reach enlightened states of consciousness and to heal long-standing patterns.

Let me tell you my story.

Before I discovered breathwork, I participated in talk therapy but still kept repeating the same old patterns. I was anxious, depressed, driven, and insecure, but I hid it under a mask of confidence. Most people never knew I suffered inside. I was successful in the ways of the world but I felt lonely and my body hurt a lot. I was frustrated and felt I had wasted a lot of my life not living up to my potential. I disliked suffering so much.

Then I met a teacher who helped me turn my life around. He was gifted with a keen intuition that could see right through me. I wanted a teacher to really know me and to love me with my warts and all. I was so fascinated by the results he facilitated that I wanted to learn how to do the same kind of highly effective work with my clients.

My teacher helped me connect with my buried insecurity, fear, pain and anger. I couldn’t fool him and that’s just what I needed. He helped me move massive amounts of blocked energy. I learned to connect with my subconscious material instead of being heady and anlytical.

I learned to listen to the messages of my body and my emotions, and I learned how to mine the wisdom there. I learned how to use the power of the breath, sound, music and movement to transform blockages. Breathwork is the most powerful tool I have found to generate deep healing and transformation.

When the student is ready, the teacher appears.

I will be eternally grateful to this teacher for showing up in my life. He was the major catalyst for my growth. I laid a whole new foundation for my life because of him. It is so much easier to manifest my fondest dreams because my energy is not tied up in old emotional wounding. I no longer feel like I am pushing a boulder uphill.

I am happy to report that I have learned how to facilitate this powerful transformation with my clients. I have become my own best friend and I feel a deep sense of inner peace, and I can you help learn how to do this, too. Breathwork will save you years of therapy, money and suffering.

We’ll be doing Breathwork in the weekend retreats that I offer:

  1. Deep Emotional Healing
  2. Highly Sensitive Person

Please contact me if you would like a complementary 10-minute get acquainted phone chat to see if the Highly Sensitive Person Retreat or individual sessions are right for you.

Contact: Benita A Esposito, MA, Life and Spiritual Coach and Psychotherapist.

Offices in Atlanta and Blairsville, Georgia, USA

Breathwork Retreat

Do you wish you could accelerate your personal and spiritual growth?  I don’t want you to miss out on this powerful experience … if you are ready to make deep profound changes. Breathwork helps you heal and develop emotional intimacy within yourself and with your loved ones faster than any method I know.

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