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This story was written by a participant in the Deep Emotional Healing Retreat and the Highly Sensitive Person Retreat.

It’s been a little over a year since my last retreat with Benita A. Esposito. I’ve attended two breathwork retreats with her about a year apart along with a handful of individual sessions. I have battled feelings of worthlessness and shame my entire life. I can remember as far back as preschool that I didn’t like myself.  Read more

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I hope this story inspires you to move ahead with a project that compels you to birth it. Maybe it’s writing a book. Maybe it’s getting an advanced college degree. Maybe it’s landing a truly fulfilling job. Maybe it’s developing your company. Maybe it’s developing a special project at work.

Whatever it is … do you dream of doing something much bigger than ever before? Is it outside of your comfort zone? Read more

Highly Sensitive Person Retreat

Two days: May 2-3, 2020. North Georgia Mountains, USA

Early Bird Date: March 27, 2020

  • Have you ever been told you are too sensitive, just get over it?
  • Do you have intense emotions that fire rapidly and last longer than other people’s?
  • Do you become overwhelmed by conflict and aggressive people?
  • Do you feel distressed when you have too much to do in too little time?
  • Do noisy crowds and social chit chat at networking events irritate you?

Do you have a highly sensitive personality?  Take the quiz.

70% of all highly sensitive people are introverts. All Highly Sensitive People are welcome in this retreat … if you are an introvert, an extrovert, or an ambivert. Join us!
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Who Should Attend
This retreat is a safe place for Highly Sensitive People to do deep emotional healing and excavate their Authentic Self so you can experience inner peace and self-confidence. This retreat is for people who are at an intermediate or advanced level in their personal/spiritual growth journey.
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Retreat Goals
I’ll help you understand the highly sensitive person trait so you can increase your  self-awareness and self-worth. You’ll grow in your ability to know your true identity and express your Authentic Self. You’ll enjoy more fulfilling relationships and create a fulfilling career so that work is an expression of your soul.
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Do you want to get to know me before applying for this retreat?
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I’m a Highly Sensitive Person Therapist. I am a highly sensitive person (HSP), a licensed professional counselor, a life coach and a spiritual counselor with four decades of professional experience to help you make faster progress on your Hero’s Journey to the Authentic Self.

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Click here to read my short personal story about being a Highly Sensitive Person

You may read my book — a memoir and teaching stories about my trials and triumphs as an HSP, The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self.  It’s available as an ebook, paperback and an audiobook.  Click here to purchase it on Amazon. You can also go to Audible.com or your iTunes app for the audiobook.

Click here to watch my book video.

Highly Sensitive Persons also might like my guided meditation CD, A Journey into Wholeness. Click here.

The Research on Highly Sensitive People (HSP)

A new personality type emerged from Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking psychological research: the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).

Only 20% of the population is highly sensitive. That means 80% of the population is wired differently than we are. No wonder we feel misunderstood.

I particularly love counseling and coaching highly sensitive people because I am one.

Gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person
We’re conscientious and responsible. We are deeply moved by the beauty of Nature and the arts. We are touched by the feelings of those around us. Many of us are empaths. That means that we actually feel the emotions of others. That helps us be adept healers, friends, lovers and team members. We’re troubled by conflict, and we want to decrease the violence in a world. Our intuition tells us what needs to be done to help people feel comfortable, and we truly want what is best for everyone. Sometimes we can predict the future. We easily see outcomes that others can’t see. We love deeply and passionately. When emotional intimacy is combined with sexual intimacy in a loving healthy committed relationship, there’s nothing better.  Without it, we feel empty. We are happy when our creative juices are set free. A world filled with harmony, mutual respect and creativity sounds just right to us.

Happy mature woman outdoors in the parkHighly Sensitive Person Problems and

Highly Sensitive Person Relationships

Anxiety and depression are familiar, especially if our personal or professional relationships are not healthy, or if we grew up in a dysfunctional family.

It’s easy to feel what other people feel, and we can understand people at depth. But, we may feel like we are losing ourselves in a relationship, especially if people don’t nurture us in return. We tend to give more than we receive.

It’s challenging to assert ourselves and express our needs because we defer to people-pleasing. That leaves us feeling depleted after a while. We want harmony. We want to keep the peace. Ironically, we can also become harsh and aggressive if we have not yet mastered the art of setting boundaries tactfully.

Some of us highly sensitive people actually take on the pain of others, which helps the other person heal, but leaves us exhausted. If you have this type of sensitivity, you are an “empath” like I am. Before we understand this trait, we may not know that we are taking on emotions that actually belong to others. Our bodies may experience chronic fatigue and pain and we may not know why.

We can feel like a ball tossed around on turbulent ocean waves, unable to find a stable base inside ourselves.

We might try to get family members to change so we can feel calm inside. But it rarely works, even though we may use that approach for years before we become exhausted.

We need to commit to cultivating inner peace no matter what is happening on the outside.

Too much stimulation from the environment stresses us. We’re like cats whose sensitive whiskers and ears sense tiny movements all around us.

We tend to be light sleepers and insomnia is common especially when traveling and sleeping in strange environments.

Because we are so sensitive, we need daily relaxation just to stay centered. We need to meditate to restore our inner peace and regain energy.

In a world that values high productivity and undervalues naps, HSPs can get burned out if we don’t take a stand for good self-care. That includes healthy food, 7.5-8 hours of good quality sleep, exercise, supportive relationships and satisfying work.

Highly Sensitive People don’t like:

  • People yelling at us
  • Conflicts that aren’t resolved
  • People making too many demands
  • Loud noises, crowds and violent movies
  • Rush hour at high speeds, bumper to bumper traffic
  • Temperatures that are too cold or too hot
  • Odors, chemicals and other things that don’t bother 80% of the population.

Needs of the Highly Sensitive Person

Highly sensitive people need authentic, genuine emotional connections more than most people. We feel empty inside when we don’t get it.

There’s a deep ache. We need quiet time to go inside. Our spirituality is important to us. We need to learn how to regulate our emotions when we’re stressed. We need beauty. We need to meditate. We need to slow down. We need to be creative.

We need help to learn how to manage our highly sensitive qualities.

We have incredible gifts to help people and to make the world a better place. We are counselors, healers, artists, writers, philosophers, teachers, IT geniuses and pastors. We facilitate healing for people, we’re creative team members, and we understand people at depth. We’re intuitive and spiritual.

We must take good care of ourselves, or we have a high price to pay, higher than most. When not balanced, we get irritable, sick, exhausted, anxious, depressed or feel physical pain. Like Goldie Locks in the story of the three bears, we like our porridge not too hot, not too cold, but just right.

Retreat Activities

The activities unfold organically to meet the needs of the participants. I offer several healing modalities: Processes to help the group bond, feel safe and supported. Guided meditations with soothing music. One-to-one coaching in front of the group so everyone learns vicariously. This is a spiritual healing format. If you want hands-on-healing, I will do that. If you don’t, I won’t. I honor your choice.

Breathwork is one of the primary transformational healing process used in this retreat.  It’s intense and deep so you’re likely to experience impressive results. We work directly with the body-mind-spirit to access unconscious emotional memory, sometimes as far back as in-utero and infancy. We want to heal the very beginning of life-long patterns so we can be free to be who we really are: our Authentic Self.

Remember, this retreat is not for beginners. Participants must want to feel deep emotions where they can heal the root of unconscious material. Most people have prior counseling or life coaching or group work. You may be currently working with another therapist and use this retreat as an adjunct to your therapy.

Requirement: Please read all these articles before applying for this retreat.

  1. Breathwork Description
  2. Breathwork Client Anecdotes
  3. Breathwork Q&A
  4. Breathwork Testimonials

Prerequisites for the Retreat

  1. Attend a minimum of three private sessions. There is an additional fee for these sessions. We can meet at my Blairsville, Georgia office, or meet via phone or videoconference.
  2. Read all the Breathwork articles above.

Photo: Benita A. Esposito. Hiawassee, GA

Location: Young Harris, Georgia. Overlooking Lake Chatuge and the Blue Ridge Mountains.

Two hours from Atlanta, Chattanooga and Asheville.

Schedule

Saturday and Sunday
Arrive at 9:00-9:15am
Group 9:30am – 12:30pm
Lunch Break  12:30 – 2:30pm
Group  2:30 – 5:30pm
Saturday evening: group dinner

Please be flexible on the ending time to accommodate the needs of the group. We will take one long break during the afternoon to walk at the lake, meditate, nap or deepen friendships. It’s your choice.

Retreat Tuition for two full days: $595.00

Early bird $25 discount by March 27

Register Now: This is a small group so you will get plenty of personal attention. Space allows for 6 people so register early to save your seat. Contact me for payment instructions.

Pre-requisite: Minimum of 3 private sessions.

Click here for a list of Lodging and Restaurants.

Contact me, Benita A. Esposito, MA,  Licensed Professional Counselor, for a complimentary 10-minute phone interview.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito Credentials. Masters degree in Clinical Psychology and four decades experience.

Read more about the challenges and gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person in my book,

The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self  by Benita A. Esposito

P.S. If you’re interested in receiving individual counseling, life coaching or spiritual counseling, you can start by contacting me for a complimentary 10-minute interview. I’m happy to help.

Refund Policy

All refund requests must be made via email. Complete the contact form.

• 30 or more days before the retreat, there will be a full refund minus a $50 processing fee.

• No refunds 0 – 29 days before the retreat, but you may apply your fee to private sessions or another retreat within 1 year, minus a $50 fee.

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Webinar: Conflict Management. I Matter. You Matter.

Are you reluctant to bring up conflicts because others might get angry with you?

Most highly sensitive people would rather avoid conflicts if at all possible. It’s anxiety-provoking for us. But here’s the downside. Avoidance does not promote healthy relationships.

How do you approach conflict? Do you get quiet and then pressure mounts until you can’t stand it? Or do you just get depressed? Or do you lose your temper and say things you wish you hadn’t?

I want you to feel empowered and be tactful so you can enjoy healthy personal and professional relationships.

At least half of us didn’t grow up in a family where people listened to us in caring ways when we experienced conflicts. That hurts. We didn’t have good role models to know how to express ourselves or respond to others. Many of us didn’t learn conflict management skills at school. Many of our work cultures don’t demonstrate transparent, caring conflict management as a consistent norm.

So how are we supposed to know the best way to manage conflict?

How can we help defuse anger and anxiety so conflict does not escalate?

If you struggle with these issues, be compassionate with yourself.

I am here to help you learn how to reduce your stress and masterfully manage conflicts.

This webinar is for Highly Sensitive People.

You will learn the two essential tools to stay centered and help others defuse anger so you can create productive outcomes.

Think about the relationships that are important to you. How much would it mean to you to be able to resolve conflicts so you both feel like you win?

Show up as your Authentic Self and maintain high self esteem.

Webinar Format

I’ll give a short lecture that includes a story about how I handled a conflict. Then I’ll coach participants so everyone can learn vicariously. You can make comments and ask questions.

Do you want to get the most out of this webinar?

Volunteer to be coached during this webinar. Two people will be selected for live coaching on this webinar.

*** Email me with a description of your most challenging conflict situation and what makes it so difficult for you.***

Date: August 14, 2019. 6:30-8pm Eastern. Mark your calendar now.

Location: videoconference or phone access via FreeConferenceCall.com

A recording will be made available for one month. If you can’t attend the live event, ask me to email the link for the recording.

Tuition: $39.00

–> To Register: Complete the Contact Page and tell me that you want to attend this webinar. Make a PayPal payment of $39 to: Payments@EspositoInstitute.com.

Registration closes Sunday 8/11/2019 so that I have time to email study materials.

I’ll email you the instructions to join the webinar via FreeConferenceCall.com at least 24 hours before the webinar.

Webinar Recording: If you can’t attend the webinar, you may purchase the recording of the webinar for $39.00. Complete the Contact Page on www.SensitiveIntrovert.com, and ask me to email the recording link for this webinar: Conflict Management Skills for HSP’s. Make a payment on PayPal by following the instructions above.

All participants will receive the link to the webinar recording at no additional fee.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor, Life Coach, and Spiritual Counselor. Click here to read Benita’s credentials.

P.S. Benita Esposito’s bestselling memoir and teaching stories, The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self, is available on Amazon.com. View the book video on the home page at www.SensitiveIntrovert.com.

Webinar: Conflict Management Skills for Highly Sensitive People Who Crave Harmony

Highly Sensitive People love peace and harmony. We want everybody to get along and we do a pretty good job of mediating most of the time.

But when we find ourselves in the middle of a situation where people are uncaring or contemptuous, we may flounder. We feel anxious or irritated. Even devastated at times. If we’re not highly trained in Emotional Intelligence skills, we may say things that we wish we hadn’t. Or we get quiet. People get offended. People lash out. People withdraw. All of this hurts.

It may take us longer than we wish to get over a poorly-handled conflict. By the time we do, our relationships may suffer or our career may be damaged.

My first mentor told me: Conflict is a necessary part of intimacy. I didn’t want to hear that, but now I realize it’s true. Knowing how to manage conflict well is one of our most important life skills. It’s the stuff that high-quality relationships are made of.

Everyone: Please email your answer to this question:
What is your most challenging conflict situation?

You can learn how to create meaningful relationships even in the midst of conflict.

I know how important this is because I’ve struggled to learn good conflict management skills for years. I want to pass on what I’ve learned to you so your life is easier than mine has been.

Instead of …

• Complaining repeatedly when your partner doesn’t cooperate with you
• Analyzing what’s wrong with your partner and trying to convince him to change
• Getting quiet and waiting for the storm to pass
• Criticizing your partner or getting defensive

You’ll learn an easy-to-understand template to quickly figure out how to express your thoughts and feelings in a responsible tactful manner. This technique is called “I Messages.”

People will be more likely to open up to you instead of distancing.

You’ll feel more confident and competent to show up as your Authentic Self and speak from your heart while respecting others.

Webinar Format

I’ll give a short lecture that includes a story about how I handled a conflict. Then I’ll coach participants so everyone can learn vicariously. You can make comments and ask questions.

Do you want to get the most out of this webinar?

Volunteer to be coached during this webinar. Two people will be selected for live coaching on this webinar. Email me with a description of your most challenging conflict situation and what makes it so difficult for you.

RECORDING: You may purchase a recording of the webinar for $39.00. Complete the Contact Page and ask me to email the recording link for this webinar. Specify the webinar title.

Make your $39 payment on PayPal.com to Payments@EspositoInstitute.com.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor, Life Coach, and Spiritual Counselor. Click here to read Benita’s credentials.

P.S. Benita Esposito’s bestselling memoir and teaching stories, The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self, is available on Amazon.com. View the book video on the home page at www.SensitiveIntrovert.com.

Webinar: Assertiveness Training for Highly Sensitive People

Have you ever asked yourself these questions?

• Why is it so difficult to stand up for my self?
• Why do I let people treat me so poorly?
• Is it selfish to ask for what I want when others don’t like it?
• How do I assert myself without hurting people’s feelings? Read more

Webinar: How Highly Sensitive People Can Find Peace in an Angry Storm

Wednesday, May 8, 2019

How do you feel when your family grumbles at you because your sensitive feelings have surfaced once again?

How does your body react when a friend rants at you? You know the feeling. You can’t understand what they are saying because your nervous system is overwhelmed. It’s hard to think clearly. It’s like a valve shuts off in your brain.

What do you do when a family member blasts you because you confronted him for kicking the dog?

Welcome to the highly sensitive person’s Achilles heel: criticism and anger.

Highly sensitive people often feel intimidated in the face of anger. We try to be understanding. But when people dump on us, we feel flooded. Our nervous systems freeze up or we explode.

Neither is a position of empowerment. Nor is it the highest expression of love for others or self-love.

But we have a conscience, and we feel bad when we don’t behave in healthy ways. Our pain motivates us to learn a better way.

In this webinar, we’ll explore how to:

• stop cowering or exploding
• remain centered when someone is angry with us
• identify what we’re feeling and manage our intense reactions
• help our loved ones understand us
• ask for other’s support to help us
• stop feeling rejected when people dump their frustration on us
• energetically protect ourselves
• assert ourselves, e.g., respect others and respect ourselves equally
• build our self-esteem
• identify and strengthen our HSP gifts.

WHO’S INVITED: Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and their loved ones who want to understand them better.

WHEN: Wednesday, May 8, 2019. 6:30-8pm Eastern

FORMAT: lecturettes, life coaching and spiritual counseling based on participants’ questions.

RECORDING: You may purchase a recording of the webinar for $39.00. Complete the Contact Page and ask me to email the recording link for this webinar. Specify the webinar title.

Make your $39 payment on PayPal.com to Payments@EspositoInstitute.com.

Facilitator

Benita A. Esposito, MA, LPCBenita-A.-Esposito,-MA,-Licensed-Professional-Counselor

I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor in Georgia. I’m also a life coach, an ordained minister with AIWP and a spiritual counselor. I earned a master’s degree in clinical psychology from Illinois State University in 1976. I see adults (individuals and couples) in private sessions and in intensive retreats.

Want a preview? Watch my book video: The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self. Click here.

Webinar: Empaths and Highly Sensitive People

How to Set Boundaries to Prevent Overwhelm

We hold a monthly webinar for Highly Sensitive People (HSP’s) on the second Wednesday of the month.

This group is a safe gathering place for HSP’s to receive support from other HSP’s and to experience expert guidance from a Highly Sensitive Therapist, Life Coach and Spiritual Counselor. You’ll gain tools so you can be happier and healthier. And you’ll be inspired by other high-achieving HSP’s personal and professional successes.

This webinar discusses the following items:

• What is an empath?

• How do you set energetic boundaries so you’re not so affected by other’s emotions?

• How can you use your gifts to help people in productive ways and maintain a solid sense of well-being?

• How do you know if you are feeling your own emotions or taking on someone else’s?

• How can you stop assuming too much responsibility for others’ lives?

• What are grounding tools to return to optimal functioning when you get overwhelmed?

• Why is a daily self-care routine essential for highly sensitive people?

RECORDING: You may purchase a recording of the webinar for $39.00. Complete the Contact Page and ask me to email the recording link for this webinar. Specify the webinar title.

Make your $39 payment on PayPal.com to Payments@EspositoInstitute.com.

To learn more about the services I provide for Highly Sensitive People:


1. Preview my bestselling book. Watch my book video at www.SensitiveIntrovert.com.

2. Purchase the eBook or paperback. The audiobook will be released soon on Amazon:

The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self

3. Visit my website: SensitiveIntrovert.com and take the quiz to see if you are a highly sensitive introvert.

Contact me for a complimentary 10-minute phone chat to see if we are a good fit to work together.

About the Facilitator

Benita Esposito, MA, LPC. 
I’m a holistic Licensed Professional Counselor, life coach, ordained minister and a Christian spiritual counselor. I earned a master’s degree in clinical psychology and have been practicing for 4 decades. I see Highly Sensitive People (HSP) adults (individuals and couples) in private sessions in Sandy Springs and Blairsville, GA and via Zoom videoconference worldwide. I also lead weekend retreats for highly sensitive people in the North Georgia mountains and at the beach.

 

Smart HSP High Achievers Meetup Group

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito, Licensed Professional Counselor

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) often feel “different,” and in this case “different” means inferior. That’s a terrible feeling, and I want to help you change that experience.

How many questions can you answer “yes” to?

1) Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP) who feels stressed when there’s too much to do?

2) Are you a smart high achiever who has struggled with anxiety or depression?

3) Do you feel compelled to do your best? When someone criticizes you, does it sting?

4) Have people said, “You’re too sensitive. Just let it go.”

5) Do you find yourself wanting to please people to avoid conflicts?

6) Do noisy crowds, time pressures and brash people stress you?

7) Are you an empath? When others are angry or sad, do you have trouble remaining centered?

8) Do you tend to lose yourself in relationships?

9) Have people taken advantage of your compassion without returning your kindness?

10) Does your heart ache when your loved ones won’t emotionally connect with you?

11) Have emotionally abusive relationships left you exhausted?

12) Is it difficult to take time for daily meditation, exercise and to prepare healthy food?

If you see yourself in these questions, you are not alone.

Attend this Meetup group and get acquainted with other like-minded HSP’s who understand you.

Who’s Invited: All highly sensitive people.

Myers Briggs profiles INFJs, ENFJs, INFPs, ENFPs, introverts and extroverts.

When: 2nd Wednesday of the month. 6:30pm-8pm. Attend one or all meetings.

Arrive 6:00 – 6:15pm to allow time for the registration process and to mingle.

1) Wed., March 13, 2019. HSP Strengths and Struggles. RSVP by 3/8/2019.

2) Wed., April 10, 2019. How to set energetic boundaries to protect our empathic nature. RSVP by 4/5/2019.

3) Wed., May 8, 2019. RSVP for Meetup #3 by 5/3/2019.

Mark your calendar now. There will be no refunds after the RSVP date.

If you attend a meeting, you’ll get to vote on the next topic. Choose from …

• Manage your strong emotional reactions.

• Create a self-care program for work-life balance.

• Develop assertiveness so conflicts don’t overwhelm you.

• Identify and stop codependent relationships.

• Set boundaries so you don’t take on other’s emotions.

• Discuss the components of healthy emotional intimacy.

• Meditate to reduce anxiety and increase spiritual intimacy.

• Cultivate inner dialogues to develop self-compassion.

• Design a fulfilling career and a peaceful home.

Where: My office. 5885 Glenridge Drive, Suite 130. Sandy Springs, Georgia 30328.

If you travel south on Glenridge Drive from the intersection of Hammond Drive, turn left at the first driveway past the tennis courts at Hammond Park. Look for the sign: 

Plaza 400 Office Park. Drive to the building in the very back of the complex. Our entrance is next to GA 400.

Tuition: $39 per meeting

Registration. Space is limited to 8 people.

• Make a PayPal payment for $39.00 to Benita@EspositoInstitute.com.

• RSVP and payment are required no later than 5:00p.m. the Friday before the Meetup.

If you would like to attend this “Smart HSP High Achiever” Meetup, complete the Contact Form at SensitiveIntrovert.com, and I’ll get back to you. If you don’t hear from me within 48 hours, call me. There may be a glitch in the system.

If a meeting is full, you’ll be added to the waiting list or you may request a full refund. Or you may apply your fee to a future meeting.

Suggested books available on Amazon:The-Gifted-Highly-Sensitive-Introvert-Book

1) The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert

Author: Benita A. Esposito, Licensed Professional Counselor

2) The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron

 

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito, MA is a licensed professional counselor. Click here for credentials.

Benita has passed an exam by Dr. Elaine Aron to counsel and provide life coaching for HSP’s.

Click here to watch my Book Video at www.SensitiveIntrovert.com.

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Bestseller Banner awarded to Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert

Drum roll, please!

I’m excited to announce the debut of the paperback version of The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self.

It is my memoir and teaching stories to guide highly sensitive introverts on the journey to the Authentic Self.

The eBook version launched 10/16/2018. Amazon awarded it the Bestseller banner in 9 categories during the first week.

Amazon began posting the #1 New Release banner for the paperback version in 8 categories on 12/3/2018.

If you ever wanted to achieve a cherished goal, but you doubted you could do it, you’ll be inspired by my story.

Most of the time my book sells more copies than When Bad Things Happen to Good People, The Dalai Lama’s Book of Wisdom, and the Whole-Brain Child which was written by one of my teachers.

I thought that if my book received the Bestseller banner, tons of other books must, too. But that’s not the case. Brian Berni, who manages my Amazon ads, explained that it’s rare for a book to become a bestseller.

There are 4 million eBooks on Amazon.

My eBook ranked #3,305 during the first week.

That means that only 3,304 books sold more copies.

Brian says that he’s happy if a new book ranks 20,000. It’s excellent if a book ranks 6,000.

But it’s absolutely amazing for a book to rank 3,000-4,000. Especially for a first-time author who doesn’t use much social media or have a big platform.

How did this success happen?

For years I had hoped that I could write a bestseller, but it seemed like a pipe dream.

It took me two years to write this book. I didn’t feel confident while writing and publishing my book. I changed the title a thousand times. I fretted over learning the technology required to publish and advertise a book on Amazon. There were hundreds of things to study and memorize. But week after week I learned.

I didn’t study writing in school. I’m not an English major. I enrolled in an adult education course on writing once, but I quit the first time the teacher criticized my work. Highly Sensitive Introverts feel stung by criticism. I have dyslexia so I read slowly and I don’t like to read much. Most writers are readers. Not me.

I consulted the guidance of the Holy Spirit every step of the way:

• what topics to include in this book and which to save for another book
• what writing style to use, and how to edit it.
• which self-publishing school to choose. I found several schools that cost $20,000. I refused to spend that kind of money.
• which sub-contractors to hire for editing, proofreading, cover design, formatting, copywriting the book description and ad management.
• I asked for prayer support. One of the women on the prayer team at my church crocheted a white loose-weave scarf with a tiny cross embedded in it. That scarf hung around my neck 24 hours each weekend while I wrote for 20 months.
• The Holy Spirit sent angels who lifted me up. I acknowledge them all in my book.

I did my best to follow instructions from the Self-Publishing School (SPS) founded by Chandler Bolt. He and his staff have the highest integrity. My book coach, Marcy Pusey, was perfect for me because she is a highly sensitive person, too. She deeply understood me and she was so warm-hearted that I was moved to tears. I had tons of questions and I didn’t hesitate to ask every one of them. The SPS online community is warm and friendly. They provided the support that I needed to keep putting one foot in front of the other, especially when I felt discouraged.

*** If you would like to join the Self-Publishing School so you can learn how to write and publish your book, shoot me an email. I’ll arrange for you to receive a sizable discount.

I knew I could write my book. But, I also knew that if I didn’t learn how to market it well, few people would find it. My goal was to reach masses of people to help improve the quality of life on the planet.

The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert eBook sold 849 copies in the first month. Some books don’t sell that much in their lifetime. I hope that the release of the paperback will catapult sales.

I had no idea that my book would become a bestseller. None.

But now, my confidence is growing. I can look back and understand what I did to create a bestseller even though I was a first-time author, a babe in the woods.

I hope you feel encouraged by my story. If I did it, you can do it. My book coach told me that 80% of people want to write a book, but only 2% actually do.

Always remember this:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.” ―Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Here’s to your success in achieving your most cherished dreams.

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Author: Benita A. Esposito, MA, is a licensed professional counselor, life coach and spiritual counselor. Contact her for a complimentary 10-minute get-acquainted phone chat to schedule a coaching session to catapult your success as a sensitive introvert.

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