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Smart HSP High Achievers Meetup Group

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito, Licensed Professional Counselor

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) often feel “different,” and in this case “different” means inferior. That’s a terrible feeling, and I want to help you change that experience.

How many questions can you answer “yes” to?

1) Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP) who feels stressed when there’s too much to do?

2) Are you a smart high achiever who has struggled with anxiety or depression?

3) Do you feel compelled to do your best? When someone criticizes you, does it sting?

4) Have people said, “You’re too sensitive. Just let it go.”

5) Do you find yourself wanting to please people to avoid conflicts?

6) Do noisy crowds, time pressures and brash people stress you?

7) Are you an empath? When others are angry or sad, do you have trouble remaining centered?

8) Do you tend to lose yourself in relationships?

9) Have people taken advantage of your compassion without returning your kindness?

10) Does your heart ache when your loved ones won’t emotionally connect with you?

11) Have emotionally abusive relationships left you exhausted?

12) Is it difficult to take time for daily meditation, exercise and to prepare healthy food?

If you see yourself in these questions, you are not alone.

Attend this Meetup group and get acquainted with other like-minded HSP’s who understand you.

Who’s Invited: All highly sensitive people.

Myers Briggs profiles INFJs, ENFJs, INFPs, ENFPs, introverts and extroverts.

When: 2nd Wednesday of the month. 6:30pm-8pm. Attend one or all meetings.

Arrive 6:00 – 6:15pm to allow time for the registration process and to mingle.

1) Wed., March 13, 2019. HSP Strengths and Struggles. RSVP by 3/8/2019.

2) Wed., April 10, 2019. How to set energetic boundaries to protect our empathic nature. RSVP by 4/5/2019.

3) Wed., May 8, 2019. RSVP for Meetup #3 by 5/3/2019.

Mark your calendar now. There will be no refunds after the RSVP date.

If you attend a meeting, you’ll get to vote on the next topic. Choose from …

• Manage your strong emotional reactions.

• Create a self-care program for work-life balance.

• Develop assertiveness so conflicts don’t overwhelm you.

• Identify and stop codependent relationships.

• Set boundaries so you don’t take on other’s emotions.

• Discuss the components of healthy emotional intimacy.

• Meditate to reduce anxiety and increase spiritual intimacy.

• Cultivate inner dialogues to develop self-compassion.

• Design a fulfilling career and a peaceful home.

Where: My office. 5885 Glenridge Drive, Suite 130. Sandy Springs, Georgia 30328.

If you travel south on Glenridge Drive from the intersection of Hammond Drive, turn left at the first driveway past the tennis courts at Hammond Park. Look for the sign: 

Plaza 400 Office Park. Drive to the building in the very back of the complex. Our entrance is next to GA 400.

Tuition: $39 per meeting

Registration. Space is limited to 8 people.

• Make a PayPal payment for $39.00 to Benita@EspositoInstitute.com.

• RSVP and payment are required no later than 5:00p.m. the Friday before the Meetup.

If you would like to attend this “Smart HSP High Achiever” Meetup, complete the Contact Form at SensitiveIntrovert.com, and I’ll get back to you. If you don’t hear from me within 48 hours, call me. There may be a glitch in the system.

If a meeting is full, you’ll be added to the waiting list or you may request a full refund. Or you may apply your fee to a future meeting.

Suggested books available on Amazon:The-Gifted-Highly-Sensitive-Introvert-Book

1) The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert

Author: Benita A. Esposito, Licensed Professional Counselor

2) The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron

 

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito, MA is a licensed professional counselor. Click here for credentials.

Benita has passed an exam by Dr. Elaine Aron to counsel and provide life coaching for HSP’s.

Click here to watch my Book Video at www.SensitiveIntrovert.com.

Atlanta (Sandy Springs) & Blairsville, GA

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Counseling & Life Coaching for the Highly Sensitive Person, Atlanta and Blairsville, GA

Highly Sensitive Person Retreat

Two days: April 27-28, 2019. North Georgia Mountains, USA

Early Birds: Save $35 when you register by March 27.

  • Have you ever been told you are too sensitive?
  • Do you become overwhelmed by conflict and aggressive people?
  • Do you feel distressed when you have too much to do in too little time?
  • Do noisy crowds and social chit chat at networking events bother you?
You may be a highly sensitive person. Take the quiz.
This retreat is a safe place for Highly Sensitive People to do deep emotional healing and excavate their Authentic Self. All Highly Sensitive People are welcome in this retreat … if you are an introvert, extrovert, or an ambivert.
Join us!
I’ll help you understand the highly sensitive person trait so you can increase your self-worth and confidence. I’ll help you enjoy more fulfilling relationships and create your career so it is an expression of your soul.
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Do you want to know more before applying for this retreat?
You may read my personal stories, trials and triumphs around being a Highly Sensitive Person in my book: The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert.  Click here to Buy it on Amazon.

The Research

A new personality type emerged from Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking psychological research: the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). I particularly love counseling and coaching highly sensitive people because I am one.

Only 20% of the population is highly sensitive. That means 80% of the population is wired differently than we are. No wonder we feel misunderstood.

Photo by Benita A Esposito

Click here to read my personal story about being a Highly Sensitive Person.

Gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person
Conscientious and responsible, we are deeply moved by the beauty of Nature and the arts. We are touched by the feelings of those around us. We’re troubled by conflict, and we want to decrease the violence in a world. Our intuition tells us what needs to be done to help people feel comfortable, and we truly want what is best for everyone. Sometimes we can predict the future. We easily seeing outcomes that others can’t see. We love deeply and passionately. When emotional intimacy is combined with sexual intimacy in a loving healthy committed relationship, there’s nothing better. We are happy and our creative juices are set free. A world filled with harmony, mutual respect and creativity sounds just right to us.

Happy mature woman outdoors in the parkChallenges of the Highly Sensitive Person
It’s easy to feel what other people feel, and we can understand people at depth. But, we may feel like we are losing ourselves in a relationship, especially if people don’t nurture us in return. Some of us highly sensitive people actually take on the pain of others, which helps them heal, but leaves us exhausted. If you have this type of sensitivity, you are an “empath” like I am. Before we understand this about ourselves, we may not know that we are taking on emotions that belong to others.

Because we are so sensitive, we need to have daily relaxation just to stay centered. We need to meditate to restore our inner peace and regain energy. In a world that values high productivity and undervalues naps, HSPs can get burned out if we don’t take a stand for good self-care. That includes healthy food and exercise.

Some of us have trouble standing up for ourselves because we are so empathetic to the discomfort of others. We want to please others to keep the peace. Or, ironically, we can get harsh and aggressive if we have not yet mastered the art of setting boundaries in a tactful way. We can feel like a ball tossed around on turbulent ocean waves, unable to find a stable base inside ourselves. We might try to get family members to change so we can feel calm inside. But it rarely works, even though we may use that approach for years before we become exhausted. We need to commit to cultivating inner peace no matter what is happening on the outside.

Too much stimulation from the environment stresses us. We’re like cats whose sensitive whiskers and ears that sense tiny movements all around us. We tend to be light sleepers and insomnia is common especially when traveling and sleeping in strange environments.

Anxiety and depression are familiar especially if our loving relationships are not nurturing for us, or if we grew up in a dysfunctional family.

Highly Sensitive People don’t like:

  • People yelling at us
  • Conflicts that aren’t resolved
  • Bosses making too many demands
  • Loud noises, crowds and violent movies
  • Rush hour at high speeds, bumper to bumper traffic
  • Temperatures that are too cold or too hot
  • Odors and chemicals that don’t bother 80% of the population.

Needs of the Highly Sensitive Person

Highly sensitive people need authentic, genuine emotional connections more than most people. We feel empty inside when we don’t get it. There’s a deep ache. We need quiet time to go inside. Our spirituality is important to us. We need to learn how to regulate our emotions when we’re stressed. We need beauty. We need to meditate. We need to slow down. We need to be creative. We need help to learn how to manage our highly sensitive qualities.

We have incredible gifts to help people and to make the world a better place. We are counselors, healers, artists, writers, philosophers, teachers and pastors. We facilitate healing for people, and we understand people at depth. We’re intuitive and spiritual. We must take good care of ourselves, or we have a high price to pay, higher than most. When not balanced, we get irritable, sick, exhausted, anxious, depressed or feel physical pain. Like Goldie Locks in the story of the three bears, we like our porridge not too hot, not too cold, but just right.

Breathwork is one of the primary transformational healing process used in this retreat.  It’s intense and deep so you’re likely to experience impressive results. We work directly with the body to access emotional memory, sometimes as far back as in-utero and infancy. We want to heal the very beginning of life-long patterns so you can be free.

Please read all these articles before applying for this retreat.

  1. Breathwork Description
  2. Breathwork Client Anecdotes
  3. Breathwork Q&A
  4. Breathwork Testimonials

Prerequisites for the Retreat

  1. Attend a minimum of three private sessions. There is an additional fee for these sessions. We can meet at my Atlanta or Blairsville, Georgia office. Or meet via phone or videoconference.
  2. Read all the Breathwork articles above.

Photo credit: Benita A. Esposito. Hiawassee, GA

Location: Young Harris, Georgia. Overlooking Lake Chatuge and the Blue Ridge Mountains.

Two hours from Atlanta, Chattanooga and Asheville.

Schedule

Saturday and Sunday
Arrive at 9:00-9:15am
Group 9:30am – 12:30pm
Break  12:30 – 2:30pm
Group  2:30 – 5:30pm
Saturday evening: group dinner

Please be flexible on the ending time to accommodate the needs of the group. We will take one long break during the afternoon to walk at the lake, meditate, nap or deepen friendships. It’s your choice.

Retreat Tuition for two full days: $595.00

Early Bird Tuition: Save $35. Tuition is $560 when your register before March 27.

Register Early: This is a small group so you will get plenty of personal attention. Space allows for 6 people.

Pre-requisite: Minimum of 3 private sessions.

Click here for a list of Lodging and Restaurants.

Contact me, Benita A. Esposito, MA,  Licensed Professional Counselor, for a complimentary 10-minute phone interview.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito Credentials. Masters degree in Clinical Psychology and four decades experience.

Read more about the challenges and gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person in these books:

  1. The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert by Benita A Esposito
  2. The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
  3. The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine Aron
  4. The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron

P.S. If you’re interested in receiving individual counseling or life coaching … in-person, on the phone, or via videoconference … you can start by contacting me for a complimentary 10-minute interview. I’m happy to help!

Refund Policy

All refund requests must be made via email. Complete the contact form.

• 30 or more days before the retreat, there will be a full refund minus a $50 processing fee.

• No refunds 0 – 29 days before the retreat, but you may apply your fee to private sessions or another retreat within 1 year, minus a $50 fee.

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Bestseller Banner awarded to Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert

Drum roll, please!

I’m excited to announce the debut of the paperback version of The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self.

It is my memoir and teaching stories to guide highly sensitive introverts on the journey to the Authentic Self.

The eBook version launched 10/16/2018. Amazon awarded it the Bestseller banner in 9 categories during the first week.

Amazon began posting the #1 New Release banner for the paperback version in 8 categories on 12/3/2018.

If you ever wanted to achieve a cherished goal, but you doubted you could do it, you’ll be inspired by my story.

Most of the time my book sells more copies than When Bad Things Happen to Good People, The Dalai Lama’s Book of Wisdom, and the Whole-Brain Child which was written by one of my teachers.

I thought that if my book received the Bestseller banner, tons of other books must, too. But that’s not the case. Brian Berni, who manages my Amazon ads, explained that it’s rare for a book to become a bestseller.

There are 4 million eBooks on Amazon.

My eBook ranked #3,305 during the first week.

That means that only 3,304 books sold more copies.

Brian says that he’s happy if a new book ranks 20,000. It’s excellent if a book ranks 6,000.

But it’s absolutely amazing for a book to rank 3,000-4,000. Especially for a first-time author who doesn’t use much social media or have a big platform.

How did this success happen?

For years I had hoped that I could write a bestseller, but it seemed like a pipe dream.

It took me two years to write this book. I didn’t feel confident while writing and publishing my book. I changed the title a thousand times. I fretted over learning the technology required to publish and advertise a book on Amazon. There were hundreds of things to study and memorize. But week after week I learned.

I didn’t study writing in school. I’m not an English major. I enrolled in an adult education course on writing once, but I quit the first time the teacher criticized my work. Highly Sensitive Introverts feel stung by criticism. I have dyslexia so I read slowly and I don’t like to read much. Most writers are readers. Not me.

I consulted the guidance of the Holy Spirit every step of the way:

• what topics to include in this book and which to save for another book
• what writing style to use, and how to edit it.
• which self-publishing school to choose. I found several schools that cost $20,000. I refused to spend that kind of money.
• which sub-contractors to hire for editing, proofreading, cover design, formatting, copywriting the book description and ad management.
• I asked for prayer support. One of the women on the prayer team at my church crocheted a white loose-weave scarf with a tiny cross embedded in it. That scarf hung around my neck 24 hours each weekend while I wrote for 20 months.
• The Holy Spirit sent angels who lifted me up. I acknowledge them all in my book.

I did my best to follow instructions from the Self-Publishing School (SPS) founded by Chandler Bolt. He and his staff have the highest integrity. My book coach, Marcy Pusey, was perfect for me because she is a highly sensitive person, too. She deeply understood me and she was so warm-hearted that I was moved to tears. I had tons of questions and I didn’t hesitate to ask every one of them. The SPS online community is warm and friendly. They provided the support that I needed to keep putting one foot in front of the other, especially when I felt discouraged.

*** If you would like to join the Self-Publishing School so you can learn how to write and publish your book, shoot me an email. I’ll arrange for you to receive a sizable discount.

I knew I could write my book. But, I also knew that if I didn’t learn how to market it well, few people would find it. My goal was to reach masses of people to help improve the quality of life on the planet.

The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert eBook sold 849 copies in the first month. Some books don’t sell that much in their lifetime. I hope that the release of the paperback will catapult sales.

I had no idea that my book would become a bestseller. None.

But now, my confidence is growing. I can look back and understand what I did to create a bestseller even though I was a first-time author, a babe in the woods.

I hope you feel encouraged by my story. If I did it, you can do it. My book coach told me that 80% of people want to write a book, but only 2% actually do.

Always remember this:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.” ―Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Here’s to your success in achieving your most cherished dreams.

Hop on over to Amazon, and buy your copy of The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert.  Buy a copy for your sensitive friends and for the family members that you want to understand you.

I’d appreciate it if you would write an Amazon review because great reviews boost the rank of the book. Then more sensitive introverts will find the help they need.

Please share this notice on your social media sites.

Author: Benita A. Esposito, MA, is a licensed professional counselor, life coach and spiritual counselor. Contact her for a complimentary 10-minute get-acquainted phone chat to schedule a coaching session to catapult your success as a sensitive introvert.

Visit www.SensitiveIntrovert.com and www.Flourishing-Lives.com.

Click here to visit the Book Page for The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert.

Highly Sensitive Introverts’ Strengths and Struggles

This is chapter 3 from the book by Benita A. Esposito, MA, LPC:

The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self Read more

Book Introduction. The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert

Wisdom for Emotional Healing and
Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self

“The hardest battle you are ever going to have to fight is the battle to be just you.”
–Leo F. Buscaglia

This book will appeal to all highly sensitive people, but if you are a smart sensitive introvert who has struggled with anxiety, depression, trauma or relationships, you’ll especially relate to my memoir and teaching stories about the Hero’s Journey to the Authentic Self. Read more

How I Discovered I Am an Intuitive Empath

This is chapter 5 in my book, The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self.

Search for my ebook and paperback book on Amazon and click the “Look Inside” button to read the first several pages of the book. You can buy it on Amazon.

“The trademark of an empath is feeling and absorbing other people’s emotions and/or physical symptoms because of their high sensitivities. These people filter the world through their intuition. Empaths are big-hearted people and try to relieve the pain of others … suddenly they’re the one feeling drained or upset when they felt fine before.” ~ Dr. Judith Orloff is a New York Times bestselling author and a member of the UCLA psychiatric clinical faculty. Read more

Mindfulness. How to Feel Whole in the Midst of Chaos

Personal and Spiritual Mastery

Many of us feel upset with the increase of violence on our planet. If you are a  highly sensitive person, you may feel the chaos energetically, even though you’re hundreds of miles away from a war, or a mass shooting or a natural disaster. If you have experienced abuse or trauma, or if you are empathic, your body may feel agitated, setting off a whole string of emotions that you don’t understand. That’s typical for a highly sensitive person, that is, until you develop a mindfulness practice to experience personal and spiritual mastery.

What can we do in the midst of chaos? We can’t always stop the violence around us. But instead of feeling helpless, we can do something. We can stop the wars inside ourselves and return to the experience of wholeness every day. Some spiritual leaders say that it takes only 10% of the whole population to shift the consciousness on the planet. When we develop the ability to stay more centered, we affect the world because we are part of the world, like one facet of the diamond is part of the whole diamond. Many of us have spent years doing inner healing. All the work we have done with our families and friends cannot be in vain. It counts, even if we cannot see the immediate impact of our efforts. We can contribute to the wisdom on this planet.

Right now you may be experiencing a resurgence of old issues and old wounds that you thought you had healed. This does not mean that you are backsliding. It means that you have the opportunity to upgrade your mastery level so you can more closely align with your Authentic Self as a highly sensitive person. Wherever the distortions still remain, they are being exposed. When you experience a conflict, ask to be shown the highest level of wisdom. Then summon the courage to act congruently with your insights.

Make a study of the wise use of power. The abuse of power results in violence. There’s a direct relationship between unresolved grief and the abuse of power. When we lose something important to us (including our sense of power or worthiness), or when we lose someone precious to us, vulnerable emotions arise. If we don’t know how to be with our vulnerable emotions, we blame or attack others. Or we shut down in depression, or we get stoic and can’t connect with our loved ones. Or we harm ourselves. Or we use our favorite addiction. But when we use emotional mastery skills, we can stay present with our own vulnerability while being grounded in our body. We connect with our Authentic Self and the Holy Spirit. We still have a sense of wholeness while we experience the loss. We’re able to make decisions based on the wise use of power.

Personal and spiritual mastery look like this: We are willing to sit with our grief and take responsibility for our disappointment, helplessness or loss. We own it. We observe ourselves non-judgmentally and say, “This is my grief. This is my sorrow. This is my loss.” We are willing to feel it and stop abandoning ourselves. We stop blaming others. We breathe and feel. This practice is called mindfulness.

When we choose personal and spiritual mastery, it’s like playing a violin. Our instrument needs tuning every time we play. We don’t tune it once and it stays tuned. We practice our scales even though we’ve been playing for years because it helps us stay proficient. We play music that brings us joy, but we also select new pieces that challenge us because we enjoy upgrading our skills. We love the experience of making the violin sing even sweeter. When all the orchestra members increase their skills, the music sparkles.

Conclusion

I encourage you to refine your skills every day so you can play the beautiful music your Authentic Self longs to sing. You are a vital part of the whole symphony. You count. Turn towards your true source of all love, wisdom and power. Schedule daily mindfulness practices so you increase your personal and spiritual mastery.

Reflections. Now It’s Your Turn.

  1. Who or what sets off “wars” in your life?
  2. Choose one struggle to focus on to upgrade your personal and spiritual mastery skills.
  3. Ask your Authentic Self and God to counsel you. Write what you hear, word for word.
  4. Develop daily practices to self-soothe and increase self-awareness so you can feel peace in the middle of the storm. Examples: Meditate. Breathe deeply. Journal. Yoga. Exercise. Eat healthy food. Talk with a friend. Attend counseling sessions. Pray. Paint. Play. Spend time in nature. Get 8 hours of sleep.
  5. What action do you choose to take? When? How often? Schedule it on your calendar so you keep the commitment to yourself. You’ll feel so much better when you develop mindfulness practices so you can feel peace in the middle of the storm.

A Resource for You

I created the guided meditation CD “A Journey into Wholeness” to help people stay grounded, manage difficult emotions, and access spiritual guidance. If you would like to hear a sample and purchase a copy, click here. This is one of many tools I have to share with you.

Contact Information

Contact the author Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor if you would like help to develop your personal and spiritual mastery via individual or couples counseling or intensive retreats. Offices in Atlanta and Blairsville, Georgia. Spiritual counseling is available worldwide via videoconference.

Websites

www.SensitiveIntrovert.com

www.Flourishing-Lives.com

Copyright 2017. All rights reserved. The Esposito Institute, Inc.

 

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