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Highly Sensitive Person Retreat

Two days: April 27-28, 2019. North Georgia Mountains, USA

Early Birds: Save $35 when you register by March 27.

  • Have you ever been told you are too sensitive?
  • Do you become overwhelmed by conflict and aggressive people?
  • Do you feel distressed when you have too much to do in too little time?
  • Do noisy crowds and social chit chat at networking events bother you?
You may be a highly sensitive person. Take the quiz.
This retreat is a safe place for Highly Sensitive People to do deep emotional healing and excavate their Authentic Self. All Highly Sensitive People are welcome in this retreat … if you are an introvert, extrovert, or an ambivert.
Join us!
I’ll help you understand the highly sensitive person trait so you can increase your self-worth and confidence. I’ll help you enjoy more fulfilling relationships and create your career so it is an expression of your soul.
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Do you want to know more before applying for this retreat?
You may read my personal stories, trials and triumphs around being a Highly Sensitive Person in my book: The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert.  Click here to Buy it on Amazon.

The Research

A new personality type emerged from Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking psychological research: the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). I particularly love counseling and coaching highly sensitive people because I am one.

Only 20% of the population is highly sensitive. That means 80% of the population is wired differently than we are. No wonder we feel misunderstood.

Photo by Benita A Esposito

Click here to read my personal story about being a Highly Sensitive Person.

Gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person
Conscientious and responsible, we are deeply moved by the beauty of Nature and the arts. We are touched by the feelings of those around us. We’re troubled by conflict, and we want to decrease the violence in a world. Our intuition tells us what needs to be done to help people feel comfortable, and we truly want what is best for everyone. Sometimes we can predict the future. We easily seeing outcomes that others can’t see. We love deeply and passionately. When emotional intimacy is combined with sexual intimacy in a loving healthy committed relationship, there’s nothing better. We are happy and our creative juices are set free. A world filled with harmony, mutual respect and creativity sounds just right to us.

Happy mature woman outdoors in the parkChallenges of the Highly Sensitive Person
It’s easy to feel what other people feel, and we can understand people at depth. But, we may feel like we are losing ourselves in a relationship, especially if people don’t nurture us in return. Some of us highly sensitive people actually take on the pain of others, which helps them heal, but leaves us exhausted. If you have this type of sensitivity, you are an “empath” like I am. Before we understand this about ourselves, we may not know that we are taking on emotions that belong to others.

Because we are so sensitive, we need to have daily relaxation just to stay centered. We need to meditate to restore our inner peace and regain energy. In a world that values high productivity and undervalues naps, HSPs can get burned out if we don’t take a stand for good self-care. That includes healthy food and exercise.

Some of us have trouble standing up for ourselves because we are so empathetic to the discomfort of others. We want to please others to keep the peace. Or, ironically, we can get harsh and aggressive if we have not yet mastered the art of setting boundaries in a tactful way. We can feel like a ball tossed around on turbulent ocean waves, unable to find a stable base inside ourselves. We might try to get family members to change so we can feel calm inside. But it rarely works, even though we may use that approach for years before we become exhausted. We need to commit to cultivating inner peace no matter what is happening on the outside.

Too much stimulation from the environment stresses us. We’re like cats whose sensitive whiskers and ears that sense tiny movements all around us. We tend to be light sleepers and insomnia is common especially when traveling and sleeping in strange environments.

Anxiety and depression are familiar especially if our loving relationships are not nurturing for us, or if we grew up in a dysfunctional family.

Highly Sensitive People don’t like:

  • People yelling at us
  • Conflicts that aren’t resolved
  • Bosses making too many demands
  • Loud noises, crowds and violent movies
  • Rush hour at high speeds, bumper to bumper traffic
  • Temperatures that are too cold or too hot
  • Odors and chemicals that don’t bother 80% of the population.

Needs of the Highly Sensitive Person

Highly sensitive people need authentic, genuine emotional connections more than most people. We feel empty inside when we don’t get it. There’s a deep ache. We need quiet time to go inside. Our spirituality is important to us. We need to learn how to regulate our emotions when we’re stressed. We need beauty. We need to meditate. We need to slow down. We need to be creative. We need help to learn how to manage our highly sensitive qualities.

We have incredible gifts to help people and to make the world a better place. We are counselors, healers, artists, writers, philosophers, teachers and pastors. We facilitate healing for people, and we understand people at depth. We’re intuitive and spiritual. We must take good care of ourselves, or we have a high price to pay, higher than most. When not balanced, we get irritable, sick, exhausted, anxious, depressed or feel physical pain. Like Goldie Locks in the story of the three bears, we like our porridge not too hot, not too cold, but just right.

Breathwork is one of the primary transformational healing process used in this retreat.  It’s intense and deep so you’re likely to experience impressive results. We work directly with the body to access emotional memory, sometimes as far back as in-utero and infancy. We want to heal the very beginning of life-long patterns so you can be free.

Please read all these articles before applying for this retreat.

  1. Breathwork Description
  2. Breathwork Client Anecdotes
  3. Breathwork Q&A
  4. Breathwork Testimonials

Prerequisites for the Retreat

  1. Attend a minimum of three private sessions. There is an additional fee for these sessions. We can meet at my Atlanta or Blairsville, Georgia office. Or meet via phone or videoconference.
  2. Read all the Breathwork articles above.

Photo credit: Benita A. Esposito. Hiawassee, GA

Location: Young Harris, Georgia. Overlooking Lake Chatuge and the Blue Ridge Mountains.

Two hours from Atlanta, Chattanooga and Asheville.

Schedule

Saturday and Sunday
Arrive at 9:00-9:15am
Group 9:30am – 12:30pm
Break  12:30 – 2:30pm
Group  2:30 – 5:30pm
Saturday evening: group dinner

Please be flexible on the ending time to accommodate the needs of the group. We will take one long break during the afternoon to walk at the lake, meditate, nap or deepen friendships. It’s your choice.

Retreat Tuition for two full days: $595.00

Early Bird Tuition: Save $35. Tuition is $560 when your register before March 27.

Register Early: This is a small group so you will get plenty of personal attention. Space allows for 6 people.

Pre-requisite: Minimum of 3 private sessions.

Click here for a list of Lodging and Restaurants.

Contact me, Benita A. Esposito, MA,  Licensed Professional Counselor, for a complimentary 10-minute phone interview.

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito Credentials. Masters degree in Clinical Psychology and four decades experience.

Read more about the challenges and gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person in these books:

  1. The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert by Benita A Esposito
  2. The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
  3. The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine Aron
  4. The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron

P.S. If you’re interested in receiving individual counseling or life coaching … in-person, on the phone, or via videoconference … you can start by contacting me for a complimentary 10-minute interview. I’m happy to help!

Refund Policy

All refund requests must be made via email. Complete the contact form.

• 30 or more days before the retreat, there will be a full refund minus a $50 processing fee.

• No refunds 0 – 29 days before the retreat, but you may apply your fee to private sessions or another retreat within 1 year, minus a $50 fee.

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Mindfulness. How to Feel Whole in the Midst of Chaos

Personal and Spiritual Mastery

Many of us feel upset with the increase of violence on our planet. If you are a  highly sensitive person, you may feel the chaos energetically, even though you’re hundreds of miles away from a war, or a mass shooting or a natural disaster. If you have experienced abuse or trauma, or if you are empathic, your body may feel agitated, setting off a whole string of emotions that you don’t understand. That’s typical for a highly sensitive person, that is, until you develop a mindfulness practice to experience personal and spiritual mastery.

What can we do in the midst of chaos? We can’t always stop the violence around us. But instead of feeling helpless, we can do something. We can stop the wars inside ourselves and return to the experience of wholeness every day. Some spiritual leaders say that it takes only 10% of the whole population to shift the consciousness on the planet. When we develop the ability to stay more centered, we affect the world because we are part of the world, like one facet of the diamond is part of the whole diamond. Many of us have spent years doing inner healing. All the work we have done with our families and friends cannot be in vain. It counts, even if we cannot see the immediate impact of our efforts. We can contribute to the wisdom on this planet.

Right now you may be experiencing a resurgence of old issues and old wounds that you thought you had healed. This does not mean that you are backsliding. It means that you have the opportunity to upgrade your mastery level so you can more closely align with your Authentic Self as a highly sensitive person. Wherever the distortions still remain, they are being exposed. When you experience a conflict, ask to be shown the highest level of wisdom. Then summon the courage to act congruently with your insights.

Make a study of the wise use of power. The abuse of power results in violence. There’s a direct relationship between unresolved grief and the abuse of power. When we lose something important to us (including our sense of power or worthiness), or when we lose someone precious to us, vulnerable emotions arise. If we don’t know how to be with our vulnerable emotions, we blame or attack others. Or we shut down in depression, or we get stoic and can’t connect with our loved ones. Or we harm ourselves. Or we use our favorite addiction. But when we use emotional mastery skills, we can stay present with our own vulnerability while being grounded in our body. We connect with our Authentic Self and the Holy Spirit. We still have a sense of wholeness while we experience the loss. We’re able to make decisions based on the wise use of power.

Personal and spiritual mastery look like this: We are willing to sit with our grief and take responsibility for our disappointment, helplessness or loss. We own it. We observe ourselves non-judgmentally and say, “This is my grief. This is my sorrow. This is my loss.” We are willing to feel it and stop abandoning ourselves. We stop blaming others. We breathe and feel. This practice is called mindfulness.

When we choose personal and spiritual mastery, it’s like playing a violin. Our instrument needs tuning every time we play. We don’t tune it once and it stays tuned. We practice our scales even though we’ve been playing for years because it helps us stay proficient. We play music that brings us joy, but we also select new pieces that challenge us because we enjoy upgrading our skills. We love the experience of making the violin sing even sweeter. When all the orchestra members increase their skills, the music sparkles.

Conclusion

I encourage you to refine your skills every day so you can play the beautiful music your Authentic Self longs to sing. You are a vital part of the whole symphony. You count. Turn towards your true source of all love, wisdom and power. Schedule daily mindfulness practices so you increase your personal and spiritual mastery.

Reflections. Now It’s Your Turn.

  1. Who or what sets off “wars” in your life?
  2. Choose one struggle to focus on to upgrade your personal and spiritual mastery skills.
  3. Ask your Authentic Self and God to counsel you. Write what you hear, word for word.
  4. Develop daily practices to self-soothe and increase self-awareness so you can feel peace in the middle of the storm. Examples: Meditate. Breathe deeply. Journal. Yoga. Exercise. Eat healthy food. Talk with a friend. Attend counseling sessions. Pray. Paint. Play. Spend time in nature. Get 8 hours of sleep.
  5. What action do you choose to take? When? How often? Schedule it on your calendar so you keep the commitment to yourself. You’ll feel so much better when you develop mindfulness practices so you can feel peace in the middle of the storm.

A Resource for You

I created the guided meditation CD “A Journey into Wholeness” to help people stay grounded, manage difficult emotions, and access spiritual guidance. If you would like to hear a sample and purchase a copy, click here. This is one of many tools I have to share with you.

Contact Information

Contact the author Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor if you would like help to develop your personal and spiritual mastery via individual or couples counseling or intensive retreats. Offices in Atlanta and Blairsville, Georgia. Spiritual counseling is available worldwide via videoconference.

Websites

www.SensitiveIntrovert.com

www.Flourishing-Lives.com

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