Two days: May 2-3, 2020. North Georgia Mountains, USA
Early Bird Date: March 27, 2020
- Have you ever been told you are too sensitive, just get over it?
- Do you have intense emotions that fire rapidly and last longer than other people’s?
- Do you become overwhelmed by conflict and aggressive people?
- Do you feel distressed when you have too much to do in too little time?
- Do noisy crowds and social chit chat at networking events irritate you?
Do you have a highly sensitive personality? Take the quiz.
You may read my book — a memoir and teaching stories about my trials and triumphs as an HSP, The Gifted Highly Sensitive Introvert: Wisdom for Emotional Healing and Expressing Your Radiant Authentic Self. It’s available as an ebook, paperback and an audiobook. Click here to purchase it on Amazon. You can also go to Audible.com or your iTunes app for the audiobook.
Click here to watch my book video.
The Research on Highly Sensitive People (HSP)
A new personality type emerged from Dr. Elaine Aron’s groundbreaking psychological research: the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
Only 20% of the population is highly sensitive. That means 80% of the population is wired differently than we are. No wonder we feel misunderstood.
I particularly love counseling and coaching highly sensitive people because I am one.
Gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person
We’re conscientious and responsible. We are deeply moved by the beauty of Nature and the arts. We are touched by the feelings of those around us. Many of us are empaths. That means that we actually feel the emotions of others. That helps us be adept healers, friends, lovers and team members. We’re troubled by conflict, and we want to decrease the violence in a world. Our intuition tells us what needs to be done to help people feel comfortable, and we truly want what is best for everyone. Sometimes we can predict the future. We easily see outcomes that others can’t see. We love deeply and passionately. When emotional intimacy is combined with sexual intimacy in a loving healthy committed relationship, there’s nothing better. Without it, we feel empty. We are happy when our creative juices are set free. A world filled with harmony, mutual respect and creativity sounds just right to us.
Highly Sensitive Person Relationships
Anxiety and depression are familiar, especially if our personal or professional relationships are not healthy, or if we grew up in a dysfunctional family.
It’s easy to feel what other people feel, and we can understand people at depth. But, we may feel like we are losing ourselves in a relationship, especially if people don’t nurture us in return. We tend to give more than we receive.
It’s challenging to assert ourselves and express our needs because we defer to people-pleasing. That leaves us feeling depleted after a while. We want harmony. We want to keep the peace. Ironically, we can also become harsh and aggressive if we have not yet mastered the art of setting boundaries tactfully.
Some of us highly sensitive people actually take on the pain of others, which helps the other person heal, but leaves us exhausted. If you have this type of sensitivity, you are an “empath” like I am. Before we understand this trait, we may not know that we are taking on emotions that actually belong to others. Our bodies may experience chronic fatigue and pain and we may not know why.
We can feel like a ball tossed around on turbulent ocean waves, unable to find a stable base inside ourselves.
We might try to get family members to change so we can feel calm inside. But it rarely works, even though we may use that approach for years before we become exhausted.
We need to commit to cultivating inner peace no matter what is happening on the outside.
Too much stimulation from the environment stresses us. We’re like cats whose sensitive whiskers and ears sense tiny movements all around us.
We tend to be light sleepers and insomnia is common especially when traveling and sleeping in strange environments.
Because we are so sensitive, we need daily relaxation just to stay centered. We need to meditate to restore our inner peace and regain energy.
In a world that values high productivity and undervalues naps, HSPs can get burned out if we don’t take a stand for good self-care. That includes healthy food, 7.5-8 hours of good quality sleep, exercise, supportive relationships and satisfying work.
Highly Sensitive People don’t like:
- People yelling at us
- Conflicts that aren’t resolved
- People making too many demands
- Loud noises, crowds and violent movies
- Rush hour at high speeds, bumper to bumper traffic
- Temperatures that are too cold or too hot
- Odors, chemicals and other things that don’t bother 80% of the population.
Needs of the Highly Sensitive Person
Highly sensitive people need authentic, genuine emotional connections more than most people. We feel empty inside when we don’t get it.
There’s a deep ache. We need quiet time to go inside. Our spirituality is important to us. We need to learn how to regulate our emotions when we’re stressed. We need beauty. We need to meditate. We need to slow down. We need to be creative.
We need help to learn how to manage our highly sensitive qualities.
We have incredible gifts to help people and to make the world a better place. We are counselors, healers, artists, writers, philosophers, teachers, IT geniuses and pastors. We facilitate healing for people, we’re creative team members, and we understand people at depth. We’re intuitive and spiritual.
We must take good care of ourselves, or we have a high price to pay, higher than most. When not balanced, we get irritable, sick, exhausted, anxious, depressed or feel physical pain. Like Goldie Locks in the story of the three bears, we like our porridge not too hot, not too cold, but just right.
The activities unfold organically to meet the needs of the participants. I offer several healing modalities: Processes to help the group bond, feel safe and supported. Guided meditations with soothing music. One-to-one coaching in front of the group so everyone learns vicariously. This is a spiritual healing format. If you want hands-on-healing, I will do that. If you don’t, I won’t. I honor your choice.
Breathwork is one of the primary transformational healing process used in this retreat. It’s intense and deep so you’re likely to experience impressive results. We work directly with the body-mind-spirit to access unconscious emotional memory, sometimes as far back as in-utero and infancy. We want to heal the very beginning of life-long patterns so we can be free to be who we really are: our Authentic Self.
Remember, this retreat is not for beginners. Participants must want to feel deep emotions where they can heal the root of unconscious material. Most people have prior counseling or life coaching or group work. You may be currently working with another therapist and use this retreat as an adjunct to your therapy.
Requirement: Please read all these articles before applying for this retreat.
Prerequisites for the Retreat
- Attend a minimum of three private sessions. There is an additional fee for these sessions. We can meet at my Blairsville, Georgia office, or meet via phone or videoconference.
- Read all the Breathwork articles above.
Location: Young Harris, Georgia. Overlooking Lake Chatuge and the Blue Ridge Mountains.
Two hours from Atlanta, Chattanooga and Asheville.
Saturday and Sunday
Arrive at 9:00-9:15am
Group 9:30am – 12:30pm
Lunch Break 12:30 – 2:30pm
Group 2:30 – 5:30pm
Saturday evening: group dinner
Please be flexible on the ending time to accommodate the needs of the group. We will take one long break during the afternoon to walk at the lake, meditate, nap or deepen friendships. It’s your choice.
Retreat Tuition for two full days: $595.00
Early bird $25 discount by March 27
Register Now: This is a small group so you will get plenty of personal attention. Space allows for 6 people so register early to save your seat. Contact me for payment instructions.
Pre-requisite: Minimum of 3 private sessions.
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Contact me, Benita A. Esposito, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor, for a complimentary 10-minute phone interview.
Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito Credentials. Masters degree in Clinical Psychology and four decades experience.
Read more about the challenges and gifts of the Highly Sensitive Person in my book,
P.S. If you’re interested in receiving individual counseling, life coaching or spiritual counseling, you can start by contacting me for a complimentary 10-minute interview. I’m happy to help.
All refund requests must be made via email. Complete the contact form.
• 30 or more days before the retreat, there will be a full refund minus a $50 processing fee.
• No refunds 0 – 29 days before the retreat, but you may apply your fee to private sessions or another retreat within 1 year, minus a $50 fee.