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Highly Sensitive Introverts Zoom Gathering

I hope you and your family are well during this Covid-19 pandemic.

I’ve been feeling the need to connect with my Highly Sensitive friends and clients. I want to know how you are doing. I want to offer you whatever support I can give. By coming together, we’ll get through this crisis with more resilience.

Have you been feeling anxious? Maybe it’s not just your anxiety. Maybe it’s the collective anxiety.

Have you been more tired than usual? How about forgetful? Scattered?

Would you like to remain more centered and grounded?

Maybe you’re relieved that you don’t have to keep up with a hectic work schedule. Whatever it is, I’d like to hear about it.

If you’d like emotional and spiritual support … or you just want to enjoy the comradery …

Please join me for a free Zoom gathering

Thursday, April 16, 2020, at 7pm-8pm Eastern

Activities
• You’ll receive empathy from listening ears.
• You’ll learn tools to help you grow emotionally and spiritually.
• We’ll pray for each other and the world.
• We’ll share unexpected blessings.

Who’s Invited: You, your Highly Sensitive friends, family and acquaintances.
Please post on social media.

Sign up now to ensure that you get a seat. We have a maximum limit.

Steps to Join this Free Zoom Gathering

***Advance registration is required.***

1) Save the date on your calendar and set a reminder alarm on your smartphone.

2) Click on the link below … or copy and paste the URL in your browser.

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJAsduChrj4tH9M5lV0YTRqORC-IyY_BV25S

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

You will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

If you do not receive an email confirmation, go back and be sure to click “I’m not a robot” and “Register.” If you still have trouble, email me at Benita@EspositoInstitute.com.

3) In addition, please click here to send me an email saying that you will attend.

I look forward to seeing you there!

Facilitator: Benita A. Esposito is a spiritual counselor with four decades of professional experience.

Expanded Counseling Services During Corona virus Covid-19
The federal government allows me to offer psychotherapy to people outside of Georgia and North Carolina during this national emergency. If your state licensing board approves it, we can meet via Zoom. If you have Blue Cross Blue Shield insurance, I can process it for you. It’s easy to get started. Contact me for a free 10-minute get-acquainted phone call to see if we are a good fit.

Please complete the Contact Form if you would like a complimentary 10-minute phone chat to see if we are a good fit.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

If you have a romantic relationship, I pray blessings over your bond that it may blossom in joy and vitality.

If you don’t have a romantic relationship, I pray blessings over the loving relationship with yourself. It’s impossible to have a healthy relationship without this.

Here’s my Valentine’s wish for you.

I know life is not always easy. You have plenty of growing pains and challenges.

I bless you with the ability to feel how special you are, whether you are in a relationship or not. May you feel connected to your spiritual heart. I bless you with the ability to see your relationships from the highest perspective. May you feel so filled by God’s love that it’s easy to let go and forgive. May the boulders be removed from your path. May all your wounds be healed.

Remember when you were a child?

There are 35.6 million children in prekindergarten through 8th grade in the United States. Many of them will be giving Valentines to their families, classmates and teachers today. That is a wonderful tradition, don’t you think?

Take a moment and send a Valentine to your friends and family, just like you did in grade school. Tell them how much you appreciate them. Their hearts will open and so will yours.

You could write a simple message of appreciation like this:
• I love the way your eyes sparkle when you laugh.
• When you giggle like a teenager, it tickles my funny bone.
• You are such a good listener. I feel known and loved by you.
• You’re one of my best cheerleaders. Thanks for encouraging me to shoot for the stars.
• You open my eyes in gentle ways to help me see my blind spots.
• You always want the best for people. You help me stretch when I feel tempted to settle for less.
• You are a dedicated provider. Thank you for helping take care of our material needs.

Reach out to single people. They may feel lonely.

Guess how many singles there are in the U.S.?

In the last U.S. census (2016), of all the citizens who were age 18 years and older:
• 110.6 million people were unmarried.
• This group comprised 45.2 percent of all U.S. residents. 53.2% were women. 46.8% were men.
• 63.5% had never been married. Another 23.1 percent were divorced and 13.4 percent were widowed.

Think of one more person who needs your love and compassion today. Write to them.

Help the light shine even more brightly on this Valentine’s Day.

Love and blessings to you,
Benita A. Esposito

CONTACT INFO

If you would like to strengthen your relationship(s) or the loving relationship with yourself, I’m here to help. I offer individual and couples spiritual counseling and life coaching in the office or via phone or videoconference from the convenience of your home. Complete the Contact Page.

Credentials for Benita A Esposito, MA

Healing Grief: Breathwork Opens the Heart and Mends Relationships

This story was written by one of my clients and posted with permission.

 

My mother died when I was two, and then an abusive stepmother raised me.

I have worked with Benita Esposito for 10 months. I’m so grateful that I accepted her invitation to attend a Deep Emotional Healing Retreat that included breathwork. I was apprehensive. It seemed a little unnerving to not have control over the outcome, or know what would come up during breathwork, but I enrolled anyway because I trusted Benita.

My background
I’ve had a life-long insecure attachment style that has impacted all my relationships, including my marriage of 17 years. One psychotherapist suggested that I do a year of CBT (cognitive behavioral talk therapy) and start on an anti-depressant. I knew deep in my soul that what I needed was healing on an emotional level.

My birth mother died when I was barely two years old and my father remarried four and a half months later. I had been the third of four in my family, and then overnight I had three older step siblings, so I became number six of seven. My birth mother was very sick during my first two years of life, and she also had another young baby. So you can imagine that getting individual loving attention from her might have been challenging. I was often cared for by aunts and grandparents before my birth mother passed away.

My stepmother was not a nurturing woman. In fact, she was either mildly or extremely abusive during my childhood. The abuse included verbal, emotional and physical aggression. The verbal abuse lasted until I was 40 when I finally began to stand up for myself. Needless to say, I was not “attuned” with my stepmother when I was growing up. I still call her weekly and do my best to care for her. I do this out of love for my deceased father and my commitment to being a Disciple of Christ, not out of a great love for my stepmother. I have grieved for years about not having a deep mother-daughter relationship.

From the beginning of my 17-year marriage, I tried to develop a healthy loving bond with my three stepchildren. They rejected me from the very beginning. Even though we had lots of counseling with other therapists, I continued to feel very vulnerable and emotionally unsafe with my husband and his children. I’m sensitive to criticism and triggered when I feel emotionally abandoned. My husband’s family has told me that I am touchy and defensive. The optimist in me kept thinking, “If I can’t have a loving attachment with my stepmother, maybe I can have one with my stepdaughters.” Fortunately, God does compensate, and I have a daughter-in-law that I’m very close to, as well as other young women that are open to the love I have to share.

During the Breathwork

My overall goals for the retreat were to develop a deeper relationship with all my stepdaughters, to heal my feelings of abandonment, and to finally earn a feeling of secure attachment.

My focus during our first session of breathwork on Saturday was to (1) heal the grief of my mother’s death, (2) heal the hurt of the childhood neglect and abuse, and (3) heal the grief of my father’s sudden passing when I was 35 years old.

I was surprised at how quickly I began to cry, but this was no ordinary cry. The crying turned into vigorous sobbing that was loud at times. I am still amazed at how much grief came out of my body. I cried for almost an hour! At one point, I was grieving the absence of my mother’s loving embrace. I could not remember ever having a loving embrace. Oh how I wanted to feel that! The intensity of the ache was more than I can describe.

Just then, Benita knelt next to me, and reached down and hugged me heart to heart. I sobbed and sobbed in her loving embrace. I think she must have held me for ten minutes. She hugged me until I could finally take a deep breath. Then she released her embrace, as I did.

When we finished our breathwork session, I was filled with extraordinary love and peace. I was overwhelmingly grateful! I felt so known and loved by my Heavenly Father. I felt so known and loved by my Savior. I felt so known and loved by the Holy Spirit that He directed Benita to embrace me exactly when I needed it. This was a life-changing embrace!!! I am forever changed!!!

My heart had been occupied by grief, but now it was open, ready to enjoy deeper loving relationships with those around me.

On Sunday, round two of breathwork started. I quickly found that there was nothing to clear. It was all gone! The image of a fire truck came to my mind. I know that may seem weird, but it was as if it required a huge fire hose (not a small garden hose, or even a pressure washer) to aggressively wash away all the grief on a deep cellular level. I knew that my healing was complete. In fact, the message I got was that I was now “whole and complete”.

After the Retreat
A few days after the retreat, I had a phone call with one of my stepdaughters to clear up some things that had happened months before. I’m so grateful that I could start the conversation by sharing with her that I had completed my grieving, and that I now had a greater capacity to love her.

During the conversation, I allowed her to share anything that was upsetting her so I could apologize. The best part was that I did not get emotionally activated at all! I could see her points, and commit to creating a deeper partnership with her. In the past, I could not do that because there was way too much hurt inside of me.

How grateful I am for Benita’s exquisite expertise and her powerful intuition and caring Christian heart that facilitated such profound healing. In addition to Benita, I found the other participants to be loving and wonderful as well. It was a powerful, safe, beautiful environment to have such a healing experience.

Forever Grateful and Forever Healed.
LH, Atlanta, GA

 

CONTACT INFO FOR BENITA A. ESPOSITO

If you would like to schedule a complimentary 10-minute get-acquainted phone call to see if Life Coaching and Spiritual Counseling with Benita A. Esposito are a good fit for you, please complete the Contact Form. You should receive an email within 48 hours, Monday-Thursday.