Entries by benitaesposito

7 Tips to Transform Hurt Feelings

Have your feelings been hurt and you just couldn’t let it roll off your back? Faster than you can blink your eyes, your heart sinks. Tension shoots through your veins. You emotionally withdraw or get angry. None of that helps, and you know it, but that’s your automatic response. 

Tristen’s Journey: From Abuse to Empowerment

When searching for a trauma counselor, Benita’s bio resonated with me right away. My intuition told me to reach out to her. After the first “get to know you” session, I knew she was the counselor for me. Her warm and caring demeanor washed over me like calming waters.

Anthony’s Retreat “Worth It”

When discussing the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Retreats with Benita, she often mentioned that a retreat is more healing than several weeks of individual therapy. I heard this a few times over years before I ever attended a retreat. I always thought it was a sales pitch. I’ll be the first to admit, this is […]

Three Blind Spots in Dating for the Highly Sensitive Introvert

If you have dated for a while, you’ve probably fallen head-over-heels in love at least once, and then you discovered that your partner wasn’t exactly who you thought he or she was. Maybe you were in a relationship for a few weeks or a few months. Maybe you had sex and you felt a certain […]

Four Tips to Sensitively Say ‘No’ to Children. Part 2 of 2

Introduction Parenting is one of the most important jobs on the planet. Attachment theory research reveals that when parents attune to their children well, kids grow up with a secure attachment style. They are more likely to choose nurturing romantic partners, be emotionally and physically healthier and more successful.

Highly Sensitive Introvert Survey Results Jan. 2021

In an effort to understand the needs of Highly Sensitive Introverts, I invited people to take a survey a couple of weeks ago. This feedback will be used to develop an online course. The working title is: The Hero’s Journey to the Authentic Self for Highly Sensitive People.

Healing from an Abusive Marriage: Devon’s Story

Self-Care Learned the Hard Way Devon, a highly sensitive man, called me for counseling at the prompting of his mother who was concerned about him. His dearest friends told him that he no longer seemed like himself. He was depressed. He was not eating properly, he had severe insomnia and he had trouble focusing on […]